Trying to help a loved one cope with grief, but just don't know what to do?
our unique, practical guide for the friends and families of the bereaved tells you exactly how to help without getting in the way
"An exemplary work on a difficult subject" - renowned author Nigella Lawson
It is awful when someone you love goes through the unbearable pain of bereavement. As you are discovering, you feel distraught and completely unable to help. You can't take away the grief, but there are many things you can do to make everyday life more bearable for them. And no-one knows better what those things might be than people who have been bereaved themselves...
This book explains how it feels, and also passes on the advice of many other people who have been bereaved. These people know exactly what helped them most (and what was well-meant but not helpful) at the time, and in the months, weeks and years afterwards.
There's no need to feel so helpless in the face of grief. This book is full of little ways - as well as big ways - you can help someone you care about cope that little bit better. You really CAN make a difference; why not let this inspiring, creative and practical book show you how?
If There's Anything I Can Do...
practical, inspiring ways to help someone who has been bereaved
When you are traveling the long, lonely road of grief, there are times when people simply don't know what to say or do and when even the closest of friendships are straining at the seams; when you walk back into work and a silence falls across the office as people look down at their desks, unaware of how to treat you; when mothers from your childrens' nursery dodge into another aisle in the supermarket to avoid having to face you; when you realize that friends have stopped calling or visiting because listening to your unending pain is just becoming too much.
The grief of a friend can be a terrible thing to witness. There is nothing you can do to stem the tide, and yet, you really do want to help. And you can help. You can ease the pain. You can never bring back the person who has died, which is all your friend really wants. But there are dozens of things you can do to lighten the load he or she has to carry. And you can keep on doing it, without getting in the way, not just for a few weeks but for months and even years if you wish.
This brave, compassionate ebook is an invaluable resource for the friends and family of the bereaved. Let us show you what to do and say to really make a difference...
"An invaluable resource for both the bereaved and their friends and family, this compassionate, brave piece of work covers everything from the practical issues (flowers, letters, what to say)
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If There's Anything I Can Do: helping you to help others
Suitable for English speakers all over the world; the principles in this book apply whether you are in the US, Canada, the UK, Australia, South Africa...
Packed with reassuring suggestions for how to help out, put together by the author, whose partner died leaving her with two young children, and many other contributors who have lived through one of life's biggest challenges
An immensely practical, helpful resource which shows you exactly how to help a bereaved friend or relative without getting in the way
A much-needed book of advice on what not to do or say around bereaved friends and relations, as well as all the right things to do and say
Gives you the confidence to just do things and offer assistance without worrying
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copy in case I don't get it back. Great to read something without reference to the
supernatural - except a plea not to invoke it." Customer comment
"Reassuring suggestions for helping out without getting in the way, from a writer
whose partner died, leaving her with two young children." Caroline Sanderson
What kind of suggestions will you find in this book?
This ebook has been written from the perspective of someone whose partner, husband or wife has died, which is the author's own experience. If There's Anything I Can Do also has many viewpoints and contributions from other people who have suffered the loss of a loved one, saying what helped them most (and what was probably well-meant but not helpful) at the time and in the months, weeks and years afterwards.
Yet it is not just for someone who has lost a partner; in many cases the principles are equally appropriate to someone grieving the loss of a child, sibling, friend, parent or other relative.
It is an enormously practical reference book, packed full of suggestions which you can implement immediately, showing you the best ways to do things like:
writing a condolence letter when someone loses a loved one
how to offer to help without causing offence
how to really listen to your bereaved friend
cooking and shopping for the bereaved
helping with children and teenagers
helping with the mountain of paperwork that bereavement brings
how to make holidays and short breaks fun again
doing odd jobs around the house and garden
being there for the long haul
buying the right gift
But don't worry, it doesn't need to feel like an onerous task – many of the ideas in this book are simple, easy things that are part and parcel of friendship, but can still make a big difference to someone who is grieving. They will appreciate your efforts more than you could ever guess.
Practical, logical, inspiring ways to help...
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How is the book delivered? How soon will you get it? The ebook is an easy-to-use PDF file. No physical products will be shipped. After you place your order, you will get INSTANT ACCESS to a page where you can download the ebook onto your computer
You will need the free Adobe Reader software which most people already have on their computer ([if you haven't got it, don't worry - we tell you how to install it](how_to_use_PDFs.html))
No waiting for the mailman to deliver, and no trips to the bookstore either, as this is a digital product which you can read on your computer or print out, as you wish
In 5 minutes from now, you could be browsing through the ebook on your computer screen - no matter whether it's 2 pm or 2 am! Just click on one of the Buy Now buttons and complete the simple order form
The simple layout makes it quick and easy to read the ebook
The book is suitable for both Mac and PC users
"Watching a friend grieve for someone they love is heartbreaking. This book
makes it easier and shows you ways you can really help." Darren Clarke
"The author explains that navigating the rocky road to recovery is difficult
enough, overwhelming without assistance, and her forthright guide helps
everyone to give the sort of help that makes such a pivotal difference in
these circumstances." The Good Book Guide
What else will you find in If There's Anything I Can Do...?
As well as all the practical help and advice outlined above, this ebook also has three useful appendices:
- Appendix 1: What not to say to someone who has been bereaved (some of the most frequently heard statements when someone loses a loved one are not particularly helpful, although they are well-meant)
- Appendix 2: Dealing with depression (which is often part and parcel of the bereavement process; we tell you the signs to look out for and what you should do to help)
- Appendix 3: A list of useful contacts in the US and UK (which will enable you to point your bereaved friend or relative towards further sources of professional help, thus making their journey through grief and loss so much easier to cope with)
Created with ease and speed of navigation in mind
It's easy to navigate the table of contents: just click on the title and go straight to the section you require
Clear layout, with lots of bullet points and bold print to help you read quickly
105 pages long, with clear instructions on how to print individual pages
Easy to either print out or read on your computer screen
"A genuinely useful guide for bewildered friends who want to help but have
no idea where to start." The Lady
"I wish I had read this two years ago as I have been supporting my bereaved
friend and I think this is all fantastic advice." … "It's a really great piece, no
nonsense, logical, practical help." … "It is wonderful. I've saved it to perhaps
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A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis (cover price $10.95)
A Grief Observed, first published in 1961, is a highly thoughtful and intimate collection of C.S. Lewis' reflections on the experience of bereavement, after his wife, Joy Gresham, had died from bone cancer.
He wrote it partly as a way of surviving the 'mad midnight moment.'
Lewis was keen to avoid identification as the author, so he originally published the book under the pseudonym of N.W. Clerk, referring to his wife throughout as "H" (her first name being Helen). The book consists of the contents of four manuscript books (or notebooks) in which Lewis expounds on his grief, from the everyday difficulties of his life without Joy to deep-set questions of faith.
The indefinite article in the title serves to make it clear that Lewis' is not the quintessential grief experience at the loss of a loved one, but one individual perspective among countless others. It is a slim volume and a comforting, quick read; definitely a book to keep on the shelf always.
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Do you also receive emotional support?
Yes! We also have a busy bereavement forum with plenty of virtual shoulders to cry on. It's a safe haven where you or your friend can discuss issues relating to grief, death, dying and anything else. It's free, and you get instant access to the forum when you purchase If There's Anything I Can Do...
We are truly sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you.
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