Discover Why Infidelity May Be The Best Thing To Have Happened To Your Marriage & Learn How You Can Bounce Back From Betrayal To Make Your Marriage Better, Stronger And More Fulfilling…
Kara sat down in stunned silence.
Her heart was pounding so loudly that she could hear it in her ears and her entire body was shaking uncontrollably.
She just found out about Brian’s betrayal and the devastating discovery of it turned her entire world upside down.
The reality hit her too hard and she was not prepared for this.
“Is this actually happening to me or is this a bad dream?” she wondered
She was too numb, it was as if a part of her had just died and she didn’t even know it.
She remembered the lines from Alfred Hitchcock’s movie, Dial M for Murder, when Kelly Grace is told that her husband plotted to kill her and she says, “What’s the matter with me, Mark? I don’t seem able to feel anything. Shouldn’t I break down or something?”
Well, that was murder, this was betrayal, but it felt worse than murder.
She was living her worst nightmare and was trying to make sense of the current chaos and crisis in her life.
Her mind was racing with disturbed thoughts and questions.
How could it have happened?
How could I have not seen this coming?
Where did it all go wrong?
How could Brian do this to me?
Am I to blame for the affair?
Maybe it was something I did, something I said that made Brian look elsewhere,
Maybe I was spending too much time with the kids,
Maybe I was too busy with my office work,
Maybe I stopped caring for myself,
Maybe I took Brian for granted…
Immediately, she was taken over by anger.
But that doesn’t give him the right to cheat on me. I have given him everything- literally everything, and this is what I get.
Men will always be men and he is no different.
I am sitting here with so much pain and hurt while he is busy screwing her.
I will show him how it feels to be betrayed by a loved one.
Consumed by rage and desperation, she logged onto Facebook to search for her high school sweetheart, Justin.
Within minutes of searching, she was able to find him to discover that he was single.
Just when she was about to send him a friend request, she started crying uncontrollably, realizing that she couldn’t do it because she still loved Brian.
As she was crying, she heard the footsteps of her kids hurrying down the stairs, loudly and happily shouting, “Mommy!”
She quickly wiped her tears, gathered herself, forced a smile and hugged her kids.
Amidst the chaos and destruction, she had to stay calm and quiet at least for her kids’ sake.
But what’s next? She had a million questions on her mind.
Will the pain ever go away?
Will things ever be the same between Brian and me?
Can I ever trust Brian again?
Has Brian cheated on me in the past?
Can I save my marriage?
Should I even stay in the marriage?
What if Brian leaves me for the other woman?
What was wrong with the marriage to begin with and what made Brian cheat on me?
How can I know that Brian will not cheat on me again?
How should I confront Brian about the affair?
Should I confront the other person to end the affair?
Should I ask Brian to leave the house temporarily so that I can sort out things?
Would that make the situation better or worse?
What should I tell the kids about why their dad is leaving them?
How long will it take me to recover from the affair?
The list was endless.
Like Kara, you may have similar things on your mind.
Maybe you are not a Kara but a Ken or Kevin, it doesn’t matter- the pain is still the same.
The agony and trauma of betrayal affects both men and women across all countries, cultures, religions and ethnic backgrounds.
All marriages are vulnerable to infidelity, even the happiest marriages.
Before you can heal and recover, it is important to realize that infidelity is complicated and that not all cases of betrayal are the same.
Here are five stories of betrayal that affect the people involved in different ways.
Story 1
Jane knew something was wrong. Part of her had to know what it was and part of her – the part she rejected as much as she could — already knew. The hints were there but not the proof.
It was a feeling that had been building for weeks. Was it months? The unsettling awareness that simmered in the back of Jane’s mind was disguised but never fully hidden. Jane’s husband, Matt, had changed.
Jane and Matt married five years ago. It was a choice that Jane still believed was one of the best she had ever made. She loved her husband as much or more than she did when they married, but Matt was so busy these days. His career required extra attention, he had explained.
Jane was prepared for the sacrifice. She understood that a demanding job sometimes required late workdays and interrupted weekends. Matt’s efforts made no difference in his salary, but Jane was almost convinced her husband was simply laying groundwork for a promotion. Nearly, almost, maybe – doubt.
Uncertainty had crept into Jane’s thoughts. Matt’s stress level had spiked, although he assured his wife that nothing was wrong. Jane missed her husband’s company weeknight after weeknight. On weekends, Matt seemed absorbed by the computer.
Their time alone diminished with each passing day. Their time apart, physically and emotionally, was apparent even when Matt was home.
She wrote it off as paranoia. Didn’t everyone’s marriage hit low spots like this? The last thing Jane wanted to do was add to Matt’s anxiety, but there were inconsistencies. Was Matt preoccupied by his work or something…someone else?
Jane wanted, begged, pleaded, argued inside her heart and mind that it shouldn’t and couldn’t be true. Matt wouldn’t forget his promise. That wasn’t the husband she knew, but maybe Matt wasn’t the husband she thought he was.
Jane had uncomfortable questions. Matt’s truthful answers might confirm the worst of her suspicions. She was at a crossroads and no path seemed like the clear one. Confronting Matt would deplete the trust between them. But the distance between them had become so great…
Story 2
Brad had proposed and Amy was happily preparing for a glorious wedding day. They were both excited to move forward into marriage and a life together. Connecting on Facebook was a large part of Amy’s free time.
It was so simple to stay involved in the lives of family and a growing list of friends. She felt welcomed into a larger world which, just a few weeks ago, included a friend request from an old high school classmate, Louis.
It had been years since she had seen or spoken with Louis but not so many years that Amy had forgotten his funny, awkward jokes and the sound of his laughter. Amy accepted the request. Within minutes, Amy and Louis were chatting online about the lives they’d lived after graduation.
Deep into that initial conversation, Louis admitted that he had harbored a crush on Amy. He told his old friend how much he missed her when they went their separate ways after high school.
To Amy, Louis was still fun – a great friend whose company she had once enjoyed. They decided to exchange emails and phone numbers with a promise not to let the friendship fade.
Louis and Amy kept that pact. Amy began to anticipate the middle-of-the-day, surprise texts. The calls from Louis came more frequently. Amy didn’t mind. She looked forward to their conversations and began to feel worried when Louis didn’t write or call.
Brad noticed Amy’s good mood. Despite all the pressures involved in wedding planning, Amy seemed relaxed these days. She was happier than ever, especially over the last several weeks.
The boss was generous. A new sales record called for a celebration, including an immediate half-day vacation. Brad welcomed the unusual break from work and stretched out on the couch, picking up the laptop.
There were several online messages between Amy and Louis. Brad saw that the two had chatted for 5 hours. Amy’s cellphone had Louis’ phone number, which she had called several times. There were text messages, too.
It seemed odd to Brad that Amy never mentioned Louis. He knew that Louis was an old friend from high school but what else was going on? Brad became uneasy. Amy had invested a lot of time talking with Louis today.
Brad’s anxiety turned to shock, then anger, when he checked Amy’s chat and cellphone history. How long had this been going on?
Story 3
Craig was tired when he got home. Traffic had been its usual Friday night chaos. He walked in to hear Dawna announce, “You’re 5 minutes late.” Craig felt slapped but he understood Dawna’s concern.“Honey, traffic was insane!”
“Why didn’t you call?”
“There was no time. If I pulled over to call you, I would’ve got home even later than I did.”
“I bet you were never late for HER. Never gave HER an excuse.”
Was Dawna ever going to be ready to let it go? Craig knew his wife was hurt, that their marriage was suffering as it never had in the past. The affair had been a mistake, a foolish misstep that Dawna never seemed willing to forget… or let Craig forget.
“Dawna, when is this going to stop? We go through this over and over again. What good does it do?”
“Why, Craig? Tell me why you did it,” Dawna cried, tears slipping down her cheeks.
“It’s over! It’s BEEN over! She was nothing to me.”
Craig reached for his wife hoping she would accept his touch. He wanted to comfort her, wrap his arms around Dawna to prove that he loved and cared for her. Dawna tearfully pulled away, turned and ran to the bedroom and locked the door. He could hear her crying.
He was so tired. It was deadline day at work. The traffic really had been awful. Dawna couldn’t see that Craig was wearing down. Every time he tried to connect, his wife moved away. When they’d talk, she kept an icy distance.
Craig saw Dawna was in pain and he knew why. The affair had devastated her but how long would he pay for what he’d done? When will she realize how much she means to me?
Craig wasn’t lying when he said the affair had been meaningless. Although he wasn’t sure how the affair really started or what motivated him to step outside his marriage, Craig was sorry. He apologized, acknowledged the mistake and worked to be a better husband.
Why wasn’t that good enough for Dawna? Why are her eyes and words so accusing? It’s like she’s afraid or caught in a place she can’t leave. What will it take to convince her?
Craig agreed to give Dawna full access to his PC and his smartphone. His wife knew all the passwords. She could read his texts and emails. Dawna could prove the affair was over by tracking his every move. She had control, but that didn’t seem to make her feel better.
Craig sat down and sighed. He wondered when the day would come when Dawna would stop hurting and start trusting him. If he could just take it all back…
Story 4
Sandy missed the romance of the early years of her marriage. Fifteen years is a long time to share a life. The kids arrived one after the other in short succession. Sandy and Bill picked up the parenting ball and ran with it. Soccer practice, Little League, middle school plays, early teen rebelliousness – they’d been through it all.
The kids were fairly self-sufficient these days, involved in friends and school activities that didn’t require Sandy’s constant monitoring. She and Bill had handled the pressure of parenthood well. There were many times when parenting took precedence over the marriage. Wasn’t that what being parents was all about?
Sandy had hoped that she and Bill could take more time just for themselves. It would be wonderful to be “in love” again. She still loved Bill and he loved her, but their relationship had always been a second priority after the kids.
There was no doubt Bill was an actively involved dad and a hard-working, well liked colleague. Sandy noticed Bill paid more attention to the way he dressed these days. She thought he might be up for another raise or a promotion. He even joined a gym, something Sandy had suggested years ago. It seemed to be paying off, too. Bill had dropped a few pounds. He even started to share a few chores, which was a bit out of character for Bill. Lately, he insisted on doing his own laundry.
Sandy found some of Bill’s clothes in the trunk of his car. They weren’t gym clothes. That seemed… unusual.
The bank statement arrived. Bill was so busy — Sandy thought she might save him the trouble of balancing the checkbook. Wait a minute — the savings account had so many withdrawals.
There were unusual charges on the credit card. Was this hotel bill part of a business deal? Why would Bill need to buy jewelry? Sandy also noticed an unrecognizable telephone number on the cellphone bill, a number Bill had contacted several times, even multiple times on the same day.
Curiosity drove Sandy to dial the number. A woman answered before Sandy could identify herself.
“Hi honey, I was expecting your call. Wanted you to know I had a great time yesterday.”
Sandy quickly disconnected. She was too numb and too afraid to put the pieces together. The disbelief and the certainty that Bill was having an affair collided.
She confronted Bill as soon as he came in the door.
“Who is she, Bill? The woman you saw yesterday – the one who said she had a good time. Who is she?”
“What are you talking about?”
Sandy pulled out the cellphone bill and pointed to the number.
“This woman! The one I assume you meet at the $300-a-night hotel you charged to the MasterCard. The one I think you bought an emerald necklace for at Marvin Jewelers. The one who makes you go to the gym, lose weight and pack extra clothes in the car!”
First, Bill lied but as Sandy presented the evidence, her husband confessed. He never apologized.
“Sandy, our marriage is empty. Day after day – it’s always the same. Nothing changes. I needed a change and Gina…”
“She has a name. Gina! Does she know you’re married?”
“Yes! She knows how unhappy I’ve been — how happy she makes me. She gives me more than you have in the last 10 years!”
“What does that mean? More what? Sex? Is this about sex?”
“I didn’t want to hurt you, Sandy, but Gina…”
Sandy couldn’t believe what Bill was saying. He must have lost his mind. 15 years together and Bill acted as if they meant nothing! The hurt was heavy, a stone-filled weight in her heart. Sandy kept hearing Bill say:
“Empty!”
The children heard the argument. Dad slammed the door and left. Something was terribly wrong.
Sandy retreated to the bedroom, too stunned to speak and too cried out to shed a tear. The kids knocked. What could she say to them? How could she explain?
Sandy held them as close as she could, knowing their love was certain.
With everything that just happened, the end of a world she thought she knew, that’s all Sandy could count on…
Story 5
College was a productive time for Lisa and Nick. They’d grown close and then closer, both committed to studies that would later turn into what they hoped would be lucrative careers.
Nick graduated first and took a dream starter job in New York. Lisa had another year to go before she hoped she could join him and get her career on track. They supported each other’s dreams and worked to close the 500-mile distance by phone or with online chats and videos.
Lisa would always visit Nick during the holidays. It had been months since they were together. Lisa anticipated a fabulous, romantic reunion.
Nick picked up Lisa at the airport, all smiles and hugs. The drive to his apartment was lively with conversation. Lisa was a little tired. Her last exam had been the hardest test yet, although she thought she did well.
Once Lisa unpacked, Nick went to take a shower. Lisa used the opportunity to log online in Nick’s laptop to catch up on news and check her email. Lisa started typing a web address and noticed the browser history.
Out of curiosity, Lisa clicked on an automatically-saved link, then another. This was no coincidence. Search after search was a pornography website. Nick was visiting porn sites regularly – every day it seemed and in every spare moment.
When Nick returned to the room, Lisa questioned him.
“Porn, Nick?”
Nick’s embarrassment about the discovery of his porn habit was evident, but the sense of shame didn’t last.
“Yeah, I watch porn. So? I’m a guy, Lisa. Really it’s not a big deal. I just watch it every once in a while and I don’t get to see you for months. What am I supposed to do?”
Lisa was disturbed by Nick’s responses. The browser history clearly revealed that Nick’s online porn past was not just a passive interest. Nick was fully engaged in watching porn whenever he could.
“Are you saying you watch porn because I’m not here, Nick?”
“Hey, it’s not like I’m cheating on you. I am not screwing anyone behind your back, it’s just porn! It’s really tough for me with so you far away and to be honest, you should have moved here with me.”
“Are you blaming me, Nick?”
Lisa remembered how she and Nick had grown together so quickly and – it seemed to both of them — so completely in college. The distance between them after Nick’s graduation didn’t seem to affect their closeness or love for one another. Where did this obsession come from?
“Look, Lisa, why are you making such a big deal out of this?”
He was still Nick, right? The Nick she knew. Had he changed or was Nick always this way? How could Lisa be so wrong, so blind about the man who made her feel so right?
Nick reached for her. Lisa moved away.
“C’mon, Lisa. You’re making too much out of this. Can we just move on?”
What else didn’t Lisa know? She stared blankly at Nick, suddenly far from certain about the future of their relationship
In each of the above stories, the problems are different.
In the story of Jane and Matt, Jane’s problems are
Is Matt cheating on her?
What is the best way to resolve this issue in her mind?
Should she discuss her concern with Matt without worrying about what he would think of her or should she do a little digging of her own to gather any evidence before discussing it with Matt?
Is she truly prepared to learn the truth?
In the case of Craig and Dawna, the issues are
What can Craig do to convince Dawna that he has truly changed?
Is there any hope left in his marriage?
How can Dawna forgive Craig and can forgiveness be learned?
In the case of Amy and Brad, Brad’s concerns are
How to let Amy know that she violated the boundaries of their relationship and that her behavior is totally unacceptable?
If Amy argues that Louis was just a friend, how can he make her realize and understand that her interaction with Louis has been taking up a lot of her emotional space, attention and time, which he is not comfortable with?
In the case of Sandy and Bill, Sandy faces the following problems
Where did it all go wrong?
Should Sandy be with Bill or should she opt for divorce?
If she wants to save her marriage, what should she do?
Should she try to save her marriage if Bill is not willing to try?
How can she best shield her kids from the affair?
For, Lisa and Nick, the worries are
How can Lisa make Nick understand porn is a strict no-no for their relationship?
How can she know if Nick is a porn addict?
How can she help him to confront his porn habit without pushing him away?
You see, no two cases of betrayal are quite the same. Infidelity is complicated and confusing because you are dealing with the irrational side of human behavior.
What you are going through right now is probably the worst phase of your life, but there is hope.
Infidelity is a crisis, but it can also be a golden opportunity for you to start afresh and try to make your relationship better than it ever was before.
Sometimes it takes a disaster of epic proportions to force you to take note of the shortcomings, to make you work on things that you might otherwise neglect or take for granted.
A crisis in a marriage does the same. A marriage often starts out on a high note and as time passes, cracks begin to appear and other tasks and people become a higher priority than our partners. Even when we know deep inside our hearts that our marriage is drifting apart, we choose to ignore the warning signs and suffer in silence, rather than discuss the problems openly and honestly.
Infidelity is often a symptom of a larger problem in a marriage.
Contrary to popular belief, experts say that many couples survive infidelity. They not only survive, but thrive after the betrayal because often these couples tend to make their marriage a priority, making a conscious effort to work on their relationship in an effort to avoid the pain, agony and humiliation of the affair.
What you need now is help and guidance from experts who know the ins and outs of infidelity.
And just to help people like you, I have interviewed some of the top infidelity experts to shed light on and provide guidance on the most common questions and problems faced by couples struggling with infidelity.
Here are some of the experts that I have interviewed.
Dr. Pat Love
Dr. Pat is a Distinguished professor, Certified Love Educator and has appeared numerous times on Oprah, The Today Show and CNN. For more than twenty-five years, she has contributed to relationship education and personal development through her books, articles, training programs, speaking and media appearances. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, an Approved Supervisor in AAMFT, and a past president of the International Association for Marriage and Family Counseling.
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Dr. Sue Johnson
Sue Johnson is Director of the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California as well as Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada. She has received numerous honors for her work, including the Outstanding Contribution to the Field of Couple and Family Therapy Award from the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and the Research in Family Therapy Award from the American Family Therapy Academy. She is also the author of the bestselling book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations For a Lifetime of Love published by Little Brown
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Dr. Jane Greer
Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally renowned relationship expert, marriage and family therapist, blogger, author, and radio host. She is creator of SHRINK WRAP WITH DR. JANE GREER, a media commentary on what we can learn from the trials and triumphs of celebrity relationships as seen in Psychology Today, Huffington Post, Metro, and on The Daily Buzz nationally syndicated morning show. She is a regular contributor to Galtime, Cupid’s Pulse and her “Doctor On Call” radio show features the popular call-in segment “Let’s Talk Sex”. Dr. Greer’s newest book, What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, is available nationwide.
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Dave Carder
Dave is an author, pastor and one of the leading experts in affair recovery and prevention. He has helped many couples save their marriage after an affair. He has done training for the Army and Navy as well as doing the first season premier and final of Unfaithful, a special TV presentation on the Oprah Winfrey network. Dave holds graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and in Marital and Family Therapy as well as the Michigan Limited License in Psychology and the Marriage and Family Therapy license in California. His publishing credits include Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs and Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage?
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Karla Downing
Karla Downing offers relationship help as a speaker, author, Bible study teacher and licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Her books include 10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages, When Love Hurts: 10 Principles to Transform Difficult Relationships, and The Truth in the Mirror: A Guide to Healthy Self-Image. Karla’s passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from the chains of dysfunction, misunderstanding, and emotional pain personally and relationally. Her messages provide practical and biblical truths that bring balance and clarity to life and relationship issues.
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Dr. Lorie Teagno
Dr. Lorie Teagno is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been practicing with couples, families and individuals for more than 30 years. She is co-author of Intimacy after Infidelity with her colleague, Dr. Steve D. Solomon. Together they have been training mental health professionals for more than 20 years in their unique approach to couples therapy, Intimacy Therapy. Besides their book, they have been featured on numerous radio and television interviews, authored articles and book chapters and created an online Intimacy Therapy course.
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Dr. Steven D. Solomon
Dr. Steven D. Solomon is a marriage friendly therapist committed to supporting clients in their relationships, whether that be by healing them, rebuilding them or enhancing them. He has been in private practice in San Diego and La Jolla, California for more than 25 years.
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Dr. Barbara Steffens
Dr. Steffens specializes in helping women recover from sexual betrayal and is a sought after speaker and presenter on special issues related to partners of sexual addicts. Speaking at international and national conferences on sexual addiction, and educating her peers on the traumatic effects disclosure of this addiction has on the partner, she is a recognized expert in this field.
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Dr. Dennis Ortman
Dr. Dennis Ortman is a psychologist in private practice specializing in the treatment of those with emotional problems and addictions. He has graduate degrees in psychology and theology and joins both traditions in his writing and therapeutic work. He has extensive experience working with those with addictions and with those struggling with issues on the border between psychology and spirituality.
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Dr. Eileen Borris
Since 1985 Dr. Borris has worked as a clinical psychologist in private practice. She is the Director of the Arizona Center for Transformational Healing where she works with individuals and couples dealing with relationship difficulties. Her work focuses on the emotional pain associated with troubled relationships including the betrayal of intimate marital relationships. Dr. Borris has written extensively on forgiveness and the healing of painful emotions including her book Finding Forgiveness: A 7 Step Program for Letting Go of Anger and Bitterness published by McGraw-Hill. She conducts “Finding Forgiveness” workshops, in which people are enabled to make better decisions from the place of understanding and wisdom rather than emotional pain.
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Dr. Lisa Firestone
Dr. Lisa Firestone is a clinical psychologist, Director of Research and Education at the Glendon Association and the Senior Editor of Psychalive.org. Dr. Firestone has published numerous peer reviewed articles, and is the co-author of many books including Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and most recently The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation (Routledge, 2012). Dr. Firestone has a private practice in Santa Barbara, CA where she works with individuals, couples and consults with other professionals on high risk patients.
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Dr. Karen Gail Lewis
Dr. Karen Gail Lewis has more than 42 years experience as a family therapist practicing in Cincinnati, and Washington, DC. She has a masters degree in social work and a doctorate in consulting psychology. For 17 years, she has led Unique Retreats for Women. Dr. Lewis speaks, both nationally and internationally, on a wide range of themes: relationships, single women, mid-life issues, women’s friendships, and adult siblings.
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Linda MacDonald, M.S.
Linda J. MacDonald is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, infidelity specialist, and author of Broken Heart, a one-act play used by various outreach ministries over the past thirty years. She is an author and workshop leader, and has had extensive experience helping couples heal from infidelity during the past 25 years. She also enjoys helping couples and individuals find new ways to solve their difficulties, heal their pain and gain new coping skills.
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Sabrina Walters
Sabrina Walters is a licensed marriage and family therapist, adjunct professor for George Fox University and has worked with a wide variety of clients, from individuals in major life transitions, to couples in crisis to youth and families facing issues of addiction. Alongside her private practice, Sabrina and her husband Eric Walters lead couples in a two day conference to enhance relationships through understanding their core values, conflict strategies and building a vision for their relationship.
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Alyssa Siegel
Alyssa Siegel is a licensed professional counselor. While she generally operates from a relational perspective, she often incorporates humanistic, psychodynamic, CBT, and mindfulness approaches, meeting each client where they are and blending support with challenge.
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Kristine Gottesman
Kristine Gottesman is a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern offering psychotherapy and counseling for individuals, couples, and families. She has experience working with a wide range of individual clients facing various challenges, such as stress and anxiety, depression, relationship issues, grief and loss, and life transitions.
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Helen Arabanos
Helen Arabanos is an internationally recognized Feng Shui Practitioner and was the Former Director of the LA Chapter of the International Feng Shui Guild. Helen has taught Feng Shui at the Institute of Psycho-Structural Balancing in Culver City, California and has given many introductory seminars at Whole Foods Market in Thousand Oaks, Santa Monica and Woodland Hills, CA as well as other organizations and charities.
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Dana Vince
Dana Vince is a licensed Professional Counselor practicing in the Knoxville area of Tennessee. She is interested in helping couples and families learn how to communicate in ways that nurture one another and form deeper bonds in their relationships.
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Renee Segal
Renee Segal is a marriage and family therapist, trained in Emotion Focused Couples Therapy, one of only two methods of couples therapy that has been proven to work, even in extremely distressed couples. She works with individual clients by understanding how a person relates to others based on the patterns learned in their most significant relationship experiences; usually their relationship with their parents.
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Dr. Paul J. Zak
Paul J. Zak is the founding Director of the Center for Neuroeconomics Studies and Professor of Economics, Psychology and Management at Claremont Graduate University and the author of The Moral Molecule: The Source of Love and Prosperity. Zak also serves as Professor of Neurology at Loma Linda University Medical Center. A featured TED speaker in 2011, Zak has also appeared on: Good Morning America, Dr. Phil, Fox & Friends, ABC Evening News, NOVA Science Now, NPR, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Time, The Economist, Scientific American, Fast Company, Forbes, and many others.
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In fact, I will be interviewing experts on an ongoing basis, so don’t be surprised if you see more interviews in the membership dashboard than the experts mentioned above.
All in all, you are getting well over 200 years of rich, invaluable, practical marriage advice from the top experts in these interviews.
Here are some of the topics covered in the interviews by our experts.
What are the different types of infidelity?
Are all types of infidelity equal?
What type of infidelity is most damaging to marriage and most difficult to recover from?
How to know if your spouse is cheating on you?
What to do when you suspect your spouse is cheating on you?
Should you snoop or discuss your concerns with your spouse openly?
How to confront your unfaithful spouse?
What to do when your spouse refuses to end the affair?
How to deal with a spouse who is a serial cheater?
Should you save your marriage or opt for a separation after infidelity?
When you should make a decision on your marriage after infidelity?
How to rebuild your marriage after infidelity?
How to heal after infidelity?
Why forgiveness is key to healing and rebuilding your marriage?
How to rebuild trust after infidelity?
How to deal with post infidelity triggers?
How long it usually takes to recover from infidelity?
How to handle children during and after infidelity?
How to restore intimacy after infidelity?
How to deal with a spouse addicted to porn or sex?
Precautions to take to prevent infidelity in your marriage
And much, much more…
Whether you suspect your partner or spouse is cheating on you or whether you have just discovered your spouse’s affair or whether you are wondering if you want to save your marriage or opt for separation after an affair or whether you want to redefine the boundaries of your relationship or marriage to make sure you and your partner are on the same page, you need to hear from these experts.
I have created a membership dashboard where you will have exclusive access to all these interviews along with links to a number of articles, newsletters, reports, books, audios, videos and other resources that can help you rebuild a stronger and happier marriage after infidelity.
Let me be honest with you. I am not a therapist or a psychologist or a relationship expert, but I have personally been a victim of cheating and I have suffered for years from mood swings and depression. I wish no-one else ever has to go through the same emotional trauma that I went through.
It is exactly for this reason why I want to help everyone facing this problem, and I don’t want the cost to be a barrier.
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You see, I have spent literally thousands of dollars to pay experts to thoroughly research the problems faced by couples struggling with infidelity. I also hired a professional interviewer to conduct and record the interviews.
Even at a very conservative average cost of $50 per interview, the total cost of all the interviews would be well over a thousand dollars.
And this does not even include the cost of paying for research to gather the best online infidelity resources that you will have access to in your membership dashboard.
Not to forget some of the experts that I have interviewed charge anywhere from 100 to 300 dollars per hour for counseling with them. Many couples are glad to pay them because they are well worth the money and have helped thousands of couples save and strengthen their marriage.
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So really, you have nothing to lose since the entire risk is on me. I am very confident that you will like the resource package that I have put together for you. More importantly my resource package will give you all that you would need to help to recover from infidelity and rebuild a better, stronger and more fulfilling marriage.
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Rooting For Your Relationship Success & Happiness,
Kajay Williams
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This is a tough question to answer. Let me give you my honest opinion. I have personally been a victim of infidelity and I know how traumatic and painful it is. At one point in my life, I was repeatedly lied to, deceived and manipulated by an unremorseful, devious partner and it created a deep emotional and psychological scar in my mind. I was depressed and constantly obssessed with worry and fear- worry that I would always be miserable and lonely in my life and fear that I would never be able to find an open and honest person to share my life with. Today, I am happily married and I have been able to successfully overcome the trauma.
However I wish that I had a helping hand to guide me through the complex maze of confusion, anxiety, anger and decision making. It could have saved me from a lot of pain and suffering that continued in the years after infidelity. I created the membership dashboard so that I can offer help and guidance in the form of expert interviews, cheat sheets, reports, videos and other resources in one easy to access place.
While not all relationships and marriages can overcome infidelity, a surprisingly high number of relationships and marriages can not only weather the infidelity storm, but they can also emerge from it stronger and happier. And it is my sincere hope and belief that my product will be able to do that for you.
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