Relationships|Positive Conflicts|How to improve your relationships
by handling disputes in a positive and constructive manner
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WOULD YOU LIKE TO SEE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS IMPROVING LIKE NEVER BEFORE?
ARE YOU HAVING MORE CONFLICTS THAN YOU CAN MANAGE?
WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE ABLE TO RELAX AND HAVE FUN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Now you can IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ALMOST IMMEDIATELY without
compromising your self-respect or the agreement with your partner.
Even if your relationships have already disintegrated and fallen apart
because of the high level of conflict, THERE IS STILL A CHANCE FOR
SUCCESS!
The best part is that other people in your life
don't have to change! You don't have to ask anyone to do things,
they will do them because you are prompting them to do so!
HOW MANY PEOPLE DO YOU KNOW THAT HAVE SERIOUS HEALTH DIFFICULTIES
AFTER BREAKING UP LONG TIME RELATIONSHIPS?
COULD THIS BE YOUR CASE:
"My brother, after being married twice, got into this huge fight
with his new wife and she was gone next day.....we could not help his
sorrow at realizing how lonely he was. But, he always wanted to have
the last word, in this case to the mirror. Such a pity he would not
accept to change the way he understood how relationships work.
Finally, he ended up with a serious heartbreak".
_Ken C., Tucson_
Here are some hard questions but please, YOU have to answer them
honestly:
* Are you having more arguments than you can manage?
* Is there a lot of grief and not enough fun in your relationships?
* Are you starved for support, recognition and love in your main
relationships?
Would you like your relationships taking off in a positive direction
like never before?
Now you can improve your relationships almost immediately without
compromising your self-respect or the agreement with your partner.
Even if your relationships have already disintegrated and fallen apart
because of the high level of conflict, there is still a chance for
success!
So, you think now that the other person will not agree to work with
you in repairing the relationship? Well, don't worry about that any
longer! You need two to have a dispute, but to repair your
relationship, you need only one -- YOU.
THE BEST PART OF THIS POSITIVE CONFLICT METHOD IS THAT OTHER PEOPLE
IN YOUR LIFE DON\'T HAVE TO CHANGE!
YOU DON\'T HAVE TO ASK ANYONE TO DO A NEW, DIFFERENT BEHAVIOR,
BECAUSE THEY WILL DO IT SPONTANEOUSLY, RESPONDING TO THE WAY YOU WILL
BE FRAMING THE RELATIONSHIP!
WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN DOING UP UNTIL NOW HAS COMPOSED THE PROBLEM, AND
HURT PEOPLE AROUND YOU, WITHOUT YOU KNOWING WHAT WAS THE EFFECT OF
YOUR BEHAVIOR. Your partner will only exhibit the best part of
him/herself, once you stop doing things they can perceive as fighting
and quarrelling, and begin offering positive framings where they can
feel happy and satisfied.
Most of the conversations that people have in relationships that
fail, consist of reacting automatically to each other and "PUSHING
EACH OTHER\'S BUTTONS." You can predict which couple will end up
divorcing, by the kind of disputes they have in the first three months
of marriage!
When frustration builds up, WE DON'T KNOW BETTER THAN TO ESCALATE BY
BEING ANGRY, OPPOSITIONAL AND VIOLENT. WE WANT TO BE RIGHT! But,
demanding, challenging and requesting that the other changes first, is
a DEAD END.
"After eight years of living together, we were at odds end; I was
closed and distant and she was acting really depressed. I could not
trust that she would listen to me, and she was acting more and more
scared of me..But the idea of separation was even worse. Getting some
help was not easy, because for my friends, leaving her was a slam dunk
decision. I had to look around and find some help with my way of
framing my thoughts in my conversations with her, in the Positive
Conflicts Electronic Book. What a difference it made! At last, both
had some hope that we could communicate at a more personal level, and
she began trusting me, and opening up what was her disappointment with
me."
_Albert G. (Telluride, CO)_
Consequently, if you stop nagging, reacting with rage and
frustration and change your behaviors into POSITIVE CONFLICT NOW, your
partner will automatically react differently. There is a simple, yet
effective, process to manage disputes even before they appear.
THIS LOOKS AS A MONUMENTAL TASK FOR YOU NOW, BUT IT\' S EASY TO DO
WHEN YOU BEHAVE FOLLOWING THE SUGGESTIONS OF THE NEW, ENLIGHTENING,
POWERFUL ELECTRONIC BOOK.
IN THIS BOOK, YOU\'LL LEARN HOW TO:
* Understand what is going on under any fight, effectively reducing
your fears.
* Stop having your buttons pushed by others and reacting with
anger, because you will know what is really going on.
* Avoid unleashing other people's emotional reactions, but still be
able to discuss the issues.
* Frame all situations into positive definitions, that will prove
of value to both parties.
* Determine what actions you need to do to solve confrontations.
* Build strength and confidence in your skills, because you will
know how to handle all type of conflicts.
* Experience higher self-esteem and a much more satisfying life.
* Gain INTERPERSONAL POWER every step of the way.
WE GUARANTEEE that this process of POSITIVE CONFLICTS will WORK!
This is something different - REALLY different. This is something
that you probably haven't even thought of yet.
It puts your usual ideas about how to resolve conflict in a
different light, and teaches you guerrilla tactics to identify and
build on the positive aspects of the relationship and avoid escalating
negative confrontations.
The POSITIVE CONFLICTS tactics are different, ethical, logical and,
on top of all that,
IT WORKS!!
Here is Jim's real story:
"I had been waiting to have a good relationship the last fifteen
years, dating different women, when I met Isabella. She was different,
and blew my heart away from the beginning. But we fought a lot, and
while I tried my best to be always calm and reasonable, she began
seeing me as uncaring and selfish. I was pretty desperate, trying to
convince her of my love and getting systematically rejected. As much
as I tried, she would not even accept to talk to me about us, and our
relationship! She decided to close me out of her life and feelings,
and I was completely crushed, but at the same time doing things that
were harassing her. And then, someone talked to me about the Positive
Conflicts book, and I began to see things in a different perspective.
Now, I know how to use my words to come across as firm but seriously
caring, and she listens to me, and even developed a new interest in
spending her life with me. All the while I thought that was being calm
and rational, I was coming across to her as cold and calculating! but
now I know how to express myself in the most positive way!
Let's face it- relationships are emotional processes, where logic
has little to do. If you don't learn how to express yourself in an
emotionally effective way, you are as good as a mute person!
Human beings need a lot of caring, warm and supportive connections
in order to live a happy and long life. Many studies confirm that
people in intimate, emotionally-sound relationships live longer and
happier lives than others. In this way, connected people share the
highs of each other's successes and the low of each other's
disappointments, because they are emotionally available to each other.
But constant fighting erodes this support and can leave you
frustrated, sad and isolated. Being able to nurture an
emotionally-sound relationship becomes a matter of survival and
communicating in a positive way the key to enhancing your happiness
quotient. And your overall degree of health too!
What happens is that we begin relationships with positive emotions
(love and respect) but when conflict appears, and we don't manage it
well, we end up with broken relationships and a lot of anger and
sadness. Failure to connect and bond is very frightening because
leaves us open to feelings of helplessness and isolation.
All the while, when we need the most some positive recognition from
others, what we keep building up are negative perceptions and failure
images! This is a destructive spiral that leads us into despair.
If this makes sense, here are three things for you to consider:
* Negative emotions get imprinted in us, and pop up frequently
without our awareness (UNFORTUNATELY, WE DON'T REALIZE HOW FREQUENT
THIS IS.)
* Negative feelings can shape ours, and theirs perceptions, so
perpetuating this cycle of miscommunication-breakup-loneliness. (AND
WE DON'T REALIZE HOW THIS IS HAPPENING).
* It's the way we express and frame our perceptions that builds a
negative interaction that scares people away. WHEN THEY NEED AND
EXPECT RECOGNITION, WE GIVE THEM NEGATIVE APPRECIATIONS!
NOW, COMES THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION:
How much is keeping your present relationship worth? And being
secure in your other relationships, at work, with bosses, friends?
What about the other people in your life for whom it might be
important to repair and keep a good relationship ... like your
siblings, parents or friends?
The quality of our lives depends on the quality of the relationships
we have with other people. The investment of only thirty dollars is
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work better. Because you will manage every other relationship better,
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seed an excellent emotionally enriching relationship to survive and
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The choice is NOW YOURS: it's either the price of a small expense,
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or a new life richer life, where your relationships are in line with
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ARE YOU READY TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER?
Not Yet?, Keep Reading!
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THE REAL QUESTIONS ARE:
* Do you really want to keep your present relationships as
miserable as they are now?
* Do you just only want to complain about how bad and frustrating
they are, and show your war wounds to your friends? Or do you really
want to be happier?
* What does your intuition tell you? Can you listen to your need to
be appreciated and loved?
If you could turn the clock back to when you two first met, would
you like to begin the story knowing how to build a much stronger,
substantial and mature relationship as well?
If you believe that this is the right person for you, consider these
points:
IF YOU ARE RESIGNED TO YOUR LOSS, STOP!
* If you think it's too late, IT\'S NOT.
* If you "know" that it's hopeless, IT\'S NOT.
* If you've given up, DON\'T.
* If you're convinced that your partner would never want to come
back, THINK AGAIN.
* If you want your relationship back, you can have it, and as good
as, and maybe better that it has ever been.
"I thought that all was lost with my partner, after six months of
silence and all kind of recriminationsthe magic was gone, and I was
trapped in this cold and empty marriageTo my desperation, our
confrontations had only one meaning: that our relationship was a total
failure. I had sleepless nights, all kind of gastric symptoms and an
overall depressive feeling about my life and my bleak future without
him. It was at that moment when I had a conversation with a co-worker
and she recommended POSITIVE CONFLICTS to me..I was able to read it
all in a day, and began applying the basic ideas the same evening. His
face changed and for the first time in months, he was listening to me!
Now we are talking about how to help each other apply the concepts, so
we can use them to strengthen our relationshipneither of us wants a
break up, we are afraid of that because we know that is a
communication issue between basically two good people that wish to
stay together"
_Ilse, Brattleboro, Vt. _
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repairing damaged relationships RIGHT NOW!
BECAUSE YOU WANT TO REPAIR YOUR RELATIONSHIP,
NOT READ ABOUT HOW IT SHOULD WORK.
We've included some explanations, so that you have a basic
understanding of what you'll be doing but instinctively, you'll
probably understand it anyway because the process is logical, even
though we don't normally think that way.
Remember, we're not very logical when it comes to establishing and
maintaining our relationships. We only use logic to find excuses for
being defensive and to justify why the relationship isn't working.
In this book you'll learn:
* The exact steps to repair your relationship independently of the
other person's explicit consent - IN FACT YOUR PARTNER DOESN\'T EVEN
HAVE TO KNOW THAT YOU\'RE REPAIRING THE RELATIONSHIP RIGHT IN FRONT OF
THEM.
* Exactly what to do and say, MORE IMPORTANTLY WHAT NOT TO DO AND
WHAT NOT TO SAY.
* That it doesn't matter how long you've been fighting, how long or
how much you "hated" each other, or how much bad baggage you're
carrying from the past.
If you want to keep your relationship alive and make it a healthy
one, the POSITIVE CONFLICTS process will work for you.
WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU ARE IN A SECOND MARRIAGE, AND AGAIN IT DOESN'T
WORK?
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNT?
If you're not happy with your relationship and choose to leave
without ordering the book, fine. Just don't leave because you think
that you'll find a better solution because most likely you will not.
If you keep doing the same things as always, you will get the same
results as always.
THE DIVORCE RATE FOR SECOND MARRIAGES IS MUCH HIGHER THAN FOR FIRST
ONES. BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO QUIT, CHECK IF YOU HAVE ALL THE NECESSARY
POSITIVE ANSWERS TO THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:
* Do you know what you're going to do differently or how different
you're going to be in your next relationship?
* How do you know if your new approach in your new relationship
will work?
* Do you actually have that new approach worked out, even tried out
with everybody else or are you hoping that you'll find a perfectly
matched soul mate?
* If you have a new approach and haven't tested it yet, how can you
know if your self-confidence has improved?
If your answers are negative, repair this relationship first and
then if you want to go, go. This failed relationship will help you try
the techniques without regret. Then at least you are assured that you
aren't going to repeat the same mistakes.
"I had some different ideas about being in conflicts fearing that
it always included losing your loved ones.......in POSITIVE CONFLICTS
am very happy and relieved to find such a wonderful resource that
teaches me otherwise. It can assert what I think without being afraid
of being left alone".
--C.M. New Orleans,
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others and also keep my relationships in good health! What a relief!
I'm very grateful for this help!"
--T.N. Naples, FL.
"I have been perceived as a difficult person all my life, and now I
was able to identify what was wrong in my approach to others.What a
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--N.P. Washington, DC
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--B.D. West Palm Beach
"Our marriage now is working; and becoming more real day by day!
After so much fighting that I was both hopeless to remain married, but
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--S.R. Dayton, Ohio
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--M.M. Syracuse, N.Y.
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with fairness. With my gratitude, Wendy in Salt Lake City."
* How to communicate different positions with respect .
* How to use conflict to deepen your relationship and appreciate
better what the other has to give.
* What the rules for fighting fair are, and how you can apply them.
* Why arguing is a waste of time--and the AMAZINGLY SIMPLE SECRET
to get around it.
* How to become a team, EVEN WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE CONFRONTING.
* Why "winning" a fight is so destructive to a relationship. You
need to avoid winning!
* How to deal with problems involving SEX or MONEY.
* How to make paradigm shifts (literally, quantum leaps!) in the
relationship.
* Much, much more about how to TRANSFORM YOUR COMMUNICATION.
* In short, how to have EXCELLENT RELATIONSHIPS.
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