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ARATAcode for men
Have you lost your passion for living?
Are you’re in midlife with lots of questions but few answers? Do you have a career of many years, but it’s killing you to keep doing it? Do many financial aspects of your life seem tough and never ending? Are you in recovery and want to continue your growth? None of the above applies exactly, but things still aren’t right in your life?
ARATAcode system will equip you with the skills to:
Handle the issues that are controlling your life now; Understand why things have become the way they are; Find support inside and out for becoming a better man; Make the choice to “wake up, man up, step up” into the life you’ve dreamed of creating for yourself.
The system consists of:
1. [A workbook](http://www.amazon.com/Wake-Man-Step-Transforming-Emotional/dp/0983943265)
2. [2 month virtual training, including video classes and interactive telecasts](http://aratacode.com/2-month-virtual-training-for-men/)
3. [90 days of one-on-one coaching sessions](http://aratacode.com/personal-coaching-for-men/)
4. [3-day retreat](http://aratacode.com/visioning-retreat-for-men/)
5. [2-day specialty adventure workshops](http://aratacode.com/workshops/specialty-adventure-workshops-for-men-califonia/)
PROGRAM DESCRIPTION
As you read this you know you’re not happy with the way things are in your life and you know it can’t keep going this way. You realize you won’t be able to stand it much longer and something will break in your life, your family or your workplace. You’re in what we call a pre-VIOLENCE crisis and part of an epidemic going on in our world that effects not only you but families and communities. This is a program for men who want to do something about their current situation but aren’t sure how to make the changes to become the man they know they can be.
You realize something is wrong in your life and you are ready to wake up, get honest with yourself, break the habits that hold you back, and do whatever it takes to feel fully alive and regain your power. This course is aimed at empowering men to create positive changes from what isn’t working to live a life of health, wealth and happiness… It’s an easy way for men to start doing their part (their work) to take charge of their lives.
PROGRAM BENEFITS
You will learn to say yes to yourself, and nurture your needs first, practicing self-love; You will take the important steps necessary to know what things in life are poison for you and which are good medicine; You will learn about old, currently unconscious, behaviors that DON‘T WORK; You will create new conscious beliefs and behaviors that DO WORK; You will be led to discover the “hot want” that will point to getting your power back; You will use that power to create a new life through honesty, understanding and personal power; You will discover ways to feel and recreate power in your body; You will be supported by and become able to support other men JUST LIKE YOU as part of a “triad” (3 men) for powerful, ongoing help along your path; You will create a strategy plan that serves YOU, your family and your career; You will be equipped with the tools you need to become accountable and tenacious about being self-responsible; You’ll find out how to handle the “stuff’ that comes back up and tries to block you; You’ll learn how to create emotionally healthy relationships; Other specialists, attorneys, psychiatrists, marriage counselors, therapists etc. will be guests of the program and offer wise insights and tips.
USEFUL THINGS TO KNOW
The problem’s not “out there,” because we do not see things as they are, we see things as we are When you continue to do what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve gotten When there is denial about working toward excellence in any of the physical, relational or financial aspects of one’s life, real happiness is impossible When nothing is done about your issues and children are involved, your kids will carry your wounds and programming with them and repeat them in their life Running to a new relationship or hiding in drugs or distraction avoids the only real solution, learning how to be a better YOU Not risking making a new choice is making a choice Men who were emotionally or physically abused growing up are more like to repeat the same behavior unless they get some form of help The overwhelming majority–close to 90 percent–of the people arrested for crimes of violence are men
What Dads bring to Children’s Emotional Stability
(provided by Warren Farrell and White House Council on Boys and Men)
The amount of time a father spends with a child is one of the strongest predictors of empathy in adulthood. Probably no quality is more important to social integration—in a marriage, in a neighborhood, in a society—than empathy for those who surround us The more the father is involved, the more easily the child makes open, receptive, and trusting contact with new people in its life When fathers are not involved, girls show signs of being hyperactive, headstrong, and anti-social. Both boys and girls showed signs of over-dependency on the mother Boys who live with their fathers after divorce tend to be warmer, have a higher degree of self-esteem, be more mature, and more independent than boys who do not The most important factor by far in preventing drug use is a close relationship with dad Living in homes without dads is more correlated with suicide among children and teenagers than any other factor—for both sexes Eighty percent of pre-school children admitted as psychiatric patients in two New Orleans hospitals came from homes without fathers. Similar percentages emerge among fatherless children in Canada. South Africa, and Finland, at ages from pre- school through teenage Children living with their fathers were much less likely to experience feeling like victims—such as a victim of a bully Most gang members come from homes without dads. When Perry Crouch, a gang intervention specialist in South-Central Los Angeles, was asked how many of the gang members he deals with are living with their dads, he replied, “About half of one percent.”
DANGER OF pre-VIOLENCE CRISIS
Violence happens when we lack a sense of personal power, feel a sense of powerlessness to change our lives. The danger of staying in a pre-VIOLENCE crisis is detrimental to your emotional, physical, and mental health. This scenario can create anxiety, depression, fear, and lead to unhealthy behaviors. Many men turn to extramarital affairs, excessive drinking, workaholic behavior, pornography or self-abuse.
Worse yet, IF there are children involved, by not doing anything, they put the children in the way of emotional or physical harm.
Children who are in households where men set a bad example or are emotionally or physically absent often become alcoholics, addicts, or ineffective, and young girls are prone to eating disorders as a way of coping with feeling things around them are out of control.
NOBODY BENEFITS BY IGNORING THE SITUATION!
SYMPTOMS OF pre-VIOLENCE CRISIS
Having the urge to hurt yourself or others; Perpetual or habitual lateness; A liking for sadistic or ironic humor; Sarcasm, cynicism or flippancy in conversation; Frequent disturbing or frightening dreams; Over-controller monotone speaking voice, often with long monologues; Difficulty in getting to sleep or sleeping through the night; Boredom, apathy, loss of interest in things; Excessive irritability over insignificant issues; Sleeping more than usual, as much as 12-14 hours a day; Waking up tired rather than rested and refreshed; Clenched jaws or grinding of teeth especially while sleeping; Facial tics, spasmodic foot movements, habitual fist clinching and similar repeated physical acts done unintentionally or unaware; Chronic depression, extended periods of feeling down for no reason; Chronically stiff or sore (often neck or shoulders); Stomach ulcers; Your sex life is non-existent; Retreating, not communicating; watching porn instead; Using drugs or alcohol… as a substitute for dealing with physical, emotional, financial or relationship issues; You’ve been fired, divorced as a result of interpersonal conflicts.
YOU’RE NOT ALONE
Everything is here for you. Pick up the phone or click the START FOR FREE button to begin your new life and become the man you want to be. There might never be a better time.
LEARNING OUTCOMES
You will learn the power of unconscious beliefs and behaviors and how they have contributed to the present state of your life. You will learn that conscious reframed beliefs and new behaviors will guarantee new outcomes in your life and relationships. You will learn that you are not alone and will experience the value of support. You will learn that you DO have choices. You will learn how to create shifts within yourself. You’ll see that how you handle situations can dramatically improve your relationships. You will learn that by committing to changes in your behavior, you will guarantee changes in all your relationships.
TESTIMONIALS
I’m a middle-aged married man with two adult sons. I had the good fortune of meeting Ray Arata when I was in the midst of my own wake-up call. I needed someone to help me navigate it and Ray was there. I have benefited first hand from his coaching, mentoring, and guidance. Now Ray has distilled much of his wisdom, intuition, and insight into this important book. If you’re a man and you’ve had your call, read Ray’s book and participate in his programs. If you’re a woman and you suspect your man – or any man you care about – had his call, read this book. It will help you more than you can imagine. It will help you see that the journey inside yourself is where the freedom is. Around the world, our communities – our men, women, and children need us to wake-up and step-up.
- Ronald Savarese.
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RAY’S STORY
At the time it happened, I was hitting my stride as a retirement planning consultant in the financial industry. I was making great money, living in California’s Marin County, and everything seemed fine.
By all outward appearances, everything should have been great. Our house was done, our three children were asleep in their own wing of the house, the stock market was climbing, and my income was rising … but I couldn’t sleep.
My dad always told me never to ask a question unless you were ready for the answer, so I considered my next words carefully.
“Is something bothering you, honey?”
Her answer was not what I was expecting. Something wasn’t bothering her; plenty of things were bothering her—namely me, our marriage, and the fact that our life (and my life, specifically) was about to change. She said she was discontented with our marriage and didn’t love me anymore. She told me she had tried numerous times to get my attention and just couldn’t handle it any longer.
I was clueless. I felt as if someone had dropped a Volkswagen on my head.
My wake-up call as a man occurred in May 1999. Whether or not I liked it, the process of waking up was a challenging one.
Ten months later, I moved out; two months after that, we were in the process of going through a divorce, and my life and the lives of our children were changed forever.
The process of “waking up” has been my journey and inspiration. I had to learn how to answer my wake-up call and strive to be a better man in my roles as husband, father, leader, businessman, and friend.
Maybe a Volkswagen hasn’t dropped on your head yet, but maybe you’re starting to feel the impending weight. Maybe you’ve already experienced the shock of change. Regardless of where you are in your life, I’m dedicated to providing tools for your journey in becoming the man you want to be.
I judge millions of people are suffering and our world is in crisis because too many men are emotionally immature, wounded, and shutdown to their feelings.
I decided to do this work to share my knowledge and experience for the benefit of other men, their families, workplaces and communities. I want to make the journey of male introspection doable for those ready to do it. I’m willing to meet men where they are and lay out a path to self-awareness, understanding, and happiness. I’m a man who has done extensive personal work and is committed to supporting other men on their journey of emotional maturity… and with that – peace.
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