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WHEN YOU LOVE A JERK -NARCISSISTIC MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS!!
NARCISSISTIC MEN, NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIPS, NARCISSISTS
WHEN YOU LOVE A JERK -NARCISSISTIC MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS!!
WHEN YOU LOVE A JERK - NARCISSISTIC MEN
YOU'RE ABOUT TO LEARN SECRETS MOST WOMEN LEARN THE HARD WAY ABOUT
NARCISSISTIC MEN!
FROM: LISA E. SCOTT, THE AUTHOR OF "SURVIVING A NARCISSIST – THE
PATH FORWARD" BOOK
Saturday, 1:27 a.m.
MEMO: Narcissist, Narcissist Personality, Narcissist Behavior,
Narcissism,
REF; Surviving a Narcissist, break up, breaking up, pain, heartbreak,
abuse, relationship, behavior, traits, supply
Dear Friend,
Have you ever been heart broken over the loss of a relationship and
someone you loved and found that 'WHAT WAS LEFT OF YOU', felt lost,
depressed, lonely, full of sadness and in pain? As if your entire
world had been shattered and the rug pulled out from underneath you?
If you were like me, did it feel as if you were dreaming a severely
bad nightmare and all you wanted was for the pain to go away? Hoping
there were some MAGICAL SOLUTION to end the misery and the heartbreak?
If so, did you find yourself asking, or wondering any of the
following questions?
How can a man fall madly in-love with me, sweep me off my feet and
then suddenly, without warning, 'like overnight' turn cold, push me
away, go SILENT and ignore me?
Why did he go being a prince in shining armor - showering me with
tons of attention, worships the ground I walk on - to being vicious,
cold, mean, SILENT and disinterested?
WHY DID HE CHANGE? In the beginning he was so convincing, so eager
and so quickly to convince me, that the love we shared was 'golden',
'cast in the stars of soul-mates', 'bound in the books of ever-lasting
love' and now.. HE IS CHANGING….
IGNORING ME and avoiding me one minute, and so normal the next..
You ask yourself, what could I have possibly done wrong? WHY IS HE
IGNORING ME? Why did he lose interest? WHY IS HE AVOIDING ME?
Was it the conversation I initiated about our future together? Or
that day when I was sick and cranky? Maybe it was the phone call from
my ex or his ex?
WHAT IS IT?
Obsessed with having answers, LIKE ME, did you try desperately to get
him to open up?
Did it seem like the closer you tried to get to him, the further he
pushed you away? The more questions you asked, he became COLDER, MORE
SILENT, IGNORING your attempts?
Perhaps you tried so hard to ignore his change in BEHAVIOR, thinking
he must be going through something and all the while desperately
trying to avoid showing any signs of being too needy or clingy?
Then you start to wonder.
WHAT THE HELL JUST HAPPENED?
What is going on with HIM? Why did he push me away? Why is my
relationship falling apart?
Walking on eggshells, you start digging, trying to find out what
could be happening!
You HATE snooping, you despise feeling so INSECURE, but WONDERING and
NOT KNOWING feels like torture!
THERE HAS TO BE A LOGICAL EXPLANATION FOR HIS CHANGE IN BEHAVIOR.
If only you knew what was happening, why he was so DISTANT and
different than before, you could fix this, right?
Is it ANOTHER WOMAN? Perhaps his ex wife? Someone new? DID I PUSH HIM
AWAY? Perhaps not giving him enough space?
In the beginning I always felt special, always knew where I stood,
always felt adored and now… I am confused, in pain and totally lost!
I always knew he was good looking, attractive and full of charm! I
often wondered if other women thought the same thing BUT until now, I
have never had any reasons to worry! No reason to suspect something
was wrong!
ZERO RED FLAGS, NO WARNINGS AND NO SIGNS OF SOMETHING BEING WRONG!
Besides, how could he just throw away an ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP, simply
because another woman shows him interest? Even if she happens to be
attractive or smart (I am too) not to mention, he has always said I
was the only woman he would ever want!
SO YOU TURN TO YOUR FRIENDS
You really need advice! You want him back, you want the relationship
to be the way he USE TO BE!
Perhaps like my friends, they said things like;
"HE'S JUST A JERK, FORGET ABOUT HIM".
Or they said: "He doesn't see the mistake he's making or what he'll
be missing" or
“play it cool, act like you don’t care and he’ll come crawling
back”..
So you try the last bit of ADVICE. All the MEN manuals tell us to
play it cool, that MEN want a good chase, right? So you give it a shot
and guess what… After weeks of pure hell, pretending to act like you
don’t care, avoiding the need to contact him and looking for every
torturous way to keep yourself occupied, HE CALLS!!!!
Pretending as if nothing was wrong, nothing ever happened, and back
to the old sweet, loving caring man, he wants to see you!
SO YOU BEGIN THINKING
He did need space. He does love me, there was no BREAK UP, just a gap
of time and space! He would never CHEAT on me, and perhaps he got
scared?
He misses me! He wants this to work out! Maybe I was wrong! Perhaps I
was over-reacting. I LOVE THIS MAN!
He deserves a second chance. Everybody makes mistakes! No one is
perfect… Like he said, I think too much and HE’S PROBABLY RIGHT!
So…. ONCE AGAIN, HE IS BACK. Things are picture perfect!
THE SEX IS AMAZING LIKE IT ALWAYS WAS.
He makes me feel so special, wanted, needed, cherish, adored! He is
so sweet, charming, caring, loving I know where I stand, he reminds me
constantly how much I mean to him and how much he wants me. How
attractive I am, how sexy and desirable I am and surely no other woman
could ever ever replace me! No other woman could compare..
BUT… SOON THEREAFTER, YOU SEE A CHANGE!
It was happening again.. He’s COLD and DISTANT. He’s MEAN,
silent, distracted and lacks INTEREST. He tells me he needs space and
that he wonders if we are right together… (COGNITIVE DISSONANCE)
So of course, LIKE ME - you're CONFUSED, DEPRESSED like hell, HEART
BROKEN and in PAIN!
You have a _MILLION questions_ and emotions running through your
mind!
What the hell is going on here? He's BREAKING UP with me?
WHY IS THIS HAPPENING???
NARCISSISTIC MEN…
They need no introduction, do they? We know them all too well. Or do
we? At one time, I thought I knew how to spot a selfish NARCISSISTIC
man, only to find, years later, I had no clue literally. I thought I
had finally found my knight in shining armor. I fell madly in love,
certain we would spend the rest of our lives together. He appeared
more caring and sensitive than any man I’ve ever met. He was
heavenly and utterly hard to avoid! He was everything I had ever
wanted and more and after eight years of loving someone who caused me
so much pain, I finally had to wake up and make the decision to move
on! Yes, after all the years of BREAKING UP and making up, I was
calling it quits!
I had to realize that he would never change and that I wanted more
than he could ever give me! I was tired and I was tired of all the
emotional abuse in loving this man. I was tired of being in a constant
state of confusion, constantly DEPRESSED and most of all, I was tired
of wondering and questioning myself. I wanted the old Lisa back!
Hi,
I am Lisa E. Scott, the Author of All About Him and Besting Selling
Book, SURVIVING A NARCISSIST - The Path Forward.
Nobody knows better the pain of living with, loving, and leaving a
NARCISSIST better than I. I have been there and I know, first hand,
how it feels to be the guiding shadow of a damaged man. I know what
you are going through and have personally witnessed the pain and
hopelessness you might be experiencing.
Unfortunately, I lived it, I breathed it and yes; I SURVIVED it! You
can SURVIVE it to!
Not only so, my ex-husband was a NARCISSIST. Not just someone who
exhibited NARCISSISTIC tendencies, but someone who was diagnosed with
pathological NARCISSISM by his own therapist. While I never understood
what was happening and remained in disillusion for many years, when I
finally realized that my husband would never change, that he was
totally incapable of loving me and that I no longer wanted to spend my
life in an ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, I knew I had to share my story with
other victims.
I wrote my first book, It’s All About Him, to build awareness and
help others recognize a NARCISSIST before getting involved and
potentially getting hurt! After watching myself and countless other
victims become painfully scarred by such a man, by such an EMOTIONAL
roller-coaster ride, I decided to write my latest book “SURVIVING A
NARCISSIST – The Path Forward”.
Sure you’re friends tell you to get it over it, and yet no one
knows what it is like to be in a RELATIONSHIP with a NARCISSIST unless
they have been through it themselves.
I have been through it! Not with one NARCISSIST but two. GETTING OVER
A NARCISSIST is excruciating and its painful! BREAKING UP and moving
on was one of the hardest things I have ever been through!
I tell my story to provide insight into the mind of a NARCISSIST. It
is important we understand how a NARCISSIST thinks and just what
motivates him. I want to help you recognize a NARCISSIST, THE
NARCISSIST PERSONALITY before he takes advantage of you.
I also want you to understand that under no circumstance would I ever
want to confuse readers by portraying that every single RELATIONSHIP
circumstance is the same nor is every man that happens to be a JERK a
NARCISSIST. This is simply not the case.
THE PROBLEM IS THIS: NARCISSISTS are an elusive breed that are often
very hard to spot, hard to pinpoint, hard to understand and EXTREMELY
hard to walk away from!
NARCISSISTS are very deceptive!
Even Mental Health experts find it extremely difficult to measure the
level and degree of NARCISSISM one might carry.
I am not a psychotherapist nor do I proclaim to be. My writing is
solely based on years of experience. The experience of my own personal
PAIN from loving a NARCISSISTIC MAN, and the journey to recovery.
My primary mission is to help you through this PAIN and to let you
know that RECOVERY is possible!
YOU CAN RECOVER AND YOU CAN TAKE BACK YOUR POWER!
IN MY EBOOK I WILL SHOW YOU HOW I SURVIVED TWO NARCISSISTS!
HOW AND WHY WE FALL FOR THE NARCISSIST
NARCISSIST BEHAVIOR, NARCISSIST TRAITS, NPD, NARCISSISTIC PD
I am often asked why we fall for a NARCISSIST? How is it possible for
a man who is so self absorbed, so detached from love and the real
meaning of commitment, make his way into our lives.
How can a woman like me go from being confident, attractive,
independent, driven and in-love, only to later find that she, through
this aBUSIVE RELATIONSHIP has cast herself in the role of being -
PITIFUL, DEPENDENT, DEPRESSED, CONFUSED AND HEART BROKEN?
How can a woman who is so cautious, so savvy to the world of dating
and rELATIONSHIP games, and a woman toughened up when it comes to love
and men, become smitten by such a PATHOLOGICAL DISORDER of loving a
NARCISSIST?
LADIES… LET ME EXPLAIN!
We have all had a ‘Mr. Big’ in our lives that essentially went
bad. Women have also become EMOTIONALLY DISTANT and unavailable as a
result of being HURT. As a result of loving someone, playing the game
train and eventually getting hurt, women have conditioned themselves
to remain distant from falling to hard with men, especially too
quickly.
Women including myself have conditioned themselves to protect their
feelings. After countless dud dates, loser MEN, RELATIONSHIP
roller-coasters and years of PAIN, women have slowly shut the door to
their hearts. In general, women have learned the hard way base upon
past experiences to protect themselves! I totally agree and I was also
one of those women.
BUT… NO one, including ME could ever prepare for the strike of a
NARCISSIST.
The situation is quite horrifying and exhausting! The BREAK UP,
CHEATING, SILENT TREATMENT, HEARTBREAK - it was a painful devastating
time in my life!
I have spent over seven years documenting, writing and coaching
victim's of the NARCISSIST..
In fact, if there is anything YOU CAN LEARN FROM THIS BOOK, is that
it’s CRITICAL to our recovery that we understand how a NARCISSIST
operates.
YOU CANNOT MOVE ON AND FREE YOURSELF FROM THE NARCISSIST - IF YOU DO
NOT UNDERSTAND WHY THIS IS HAPPENING!
MY EBOOK WILL SHOW YOU HOW A NARCISSIST OPERATES!
SO WHY ME… HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN TO ME?
GOD only knows, relationships can feel like a whirlwind of games!
Trying to imagine a relationship without 'games' is like trying to
imagine a world without sunlight, it simply can’t happen. It’s
where both individuals put forth their best! It’s the normal process
where we drape our credentials and show off all our best skills.
Like "niceness," and "understanding," and "sexy," and "smart," and
"funny," and so on. MEN use other tactics like charm. LADIES, THIS IS
NORMAL!
With the NARCISSIST, it’s quite different than the ordinary game of
attraction. The lure of a NARCISSIST, GOES WAY BEYOND charm!
Narcissists are PATHOLOGICAL CHARMERS and known to thrive on GAMES!
In fact, many victims of the NARCISSISTS later describe it as a
roller-coaster ride on steroids! Initial highs followed by many sudden
lows. This often why victim's have a hard time GETTING OVER the BREAK
UP and the loss of the NARCISSIST!
“WOMEN CAN FAKE ORGASMS BUT SOME MEN CAN FAKE AND ENTIRE
RELATIONSHIP!” SHARON STONE
THE #1 DEADLY MISTAKE WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE
MISTAKE #2 – WOMEN FAIL TO REAL THAT A NARCISSIST IS A PATHOLOGICAL
CHARMER \">I KNOW THIS PERSONALLY!
Being in love with a NARCISSIST is a confusing state of affairs, to
say the least. In the beginning, a NARCISSIST makes you feel
incredibly loved and valued. He appears to be head-over-heels in love
with you and worships the ground you walk on. He writes you poetry,
takes you out for romantic dinners, and finds all your little quirks
endearing and adorable.
THE #2 DEADLY MISTAKE WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE
MISTAKE #2 – WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE THE NARCISSIST WILL DO AND SAY
ANYTHING TO CATCH HIS NEXT SOURCE OF SUPPLY..
From the perfect beginning to the ugly and painful end, it is almost
as if all NARCISSISTS read the same manual. At the beginning they
build the unsuspecting loved one's self-esteem up to a point they had
never experienced before, and then slowly, painfully and viciously
tears them DOWN AND RIPS THEM APART!
This is the DISORDER behind NARCISSISM! This is the PERSONALITY
behind the NARCISSIST! This another common tactic and apart of the
NARCISSIST TRAITS..
SO YOU ASK… HOW DO WE FALL FOR THIS TRAP?
BEAUTY BEHIND THE BEAST – THE NARCISSIST
Meet Prince Charming - Out of nowhere, he appears - rocking your
world like a category 10! He is so good that he doesn’t have to say
anything. He is so well built; he can read your mind, body and spirit.
He flourishes you with gifts, attention, time and energy. He romances
you. He calls constantly and sends hourly reminders of his existence.
He is the complete package. Never before have you encountered such a
whirlwind of events that made you consciously know he’s the one. He
is overtly caring, charming, sexy, smart, intuitive, refreshing and
literally addicting.
He showers you with attention, praise, compliments and through his
constant reminders lets you know he is completely interested in you.
As time passes, you fall madly and crazily in love with ‘Him’!
You feel sick, you can't eat, you don't know what you are thinking and
feeling, but you are ‘thinking excessively’. You feel happy, you
feel sad and unsettled, you worry, your ecstatic. It’s the
intoxicating moment you’ve so patiently waited for. The moment when
you finally feel desired, attractive, special, adored and loved!
Without effort, someone understands you, accepts you, admires and
idolizes you.
AND THEN SOMETHING BEGINS TO CHANGE
MR. WONDERFUL AND MR. PRICE CHARMING IS NOT THE SAME MAN!
(HENCE - YOUR BOYFRIEND, HUSBAND, MAN) CHANGED!
Perhaps it was a slow gradual process or an immediate change, but
something changed! This man is not the same man. Who is he?
All relationships with an incredibly romantic beginning eventually
calm down. One day your Prince with all his charm doesn’t look quite
the same. And in fact, he doesn’t look at you as the ‘Center
Fold’ you once were, (a figment of his imagination). This is normal!
During the normal honeymoon stage in RELATIONSHIPS, both you and your
partner can only see the dynamics of something fresh, something new.
The excitement and newness of the relationship, the cycles of highs
and lows are all normal!
The actress and the actor are now forced with seeing each other
outside of the obvious roles they’ve been playing, and the crossing
point where one must face reality.
But the horrifying fact is, when dealing with a NARCISSIST, no one
can ever expect the cycle you will eventually face. It’s quite
different! The ‘Game Face’, which is an essential tactic in any
competitive event, and often used by a NARCISSIST is now starting to
dissipate. His ‘Mask’ slowly begins to come off. His DISORDER
beaming through.
During the luring stage of the RELATIONSHIP, the NARCISSIST totally
IDEALIZES his victim. He indicates he sees her as wonderful, perfect,
his soul mate. He notes her amazing abilities, her brilliance,
sweetness, and any other PERSONALITY TRAIT he can hone in on. He did
this in order to speed up the sensation of attachment and move the
RELATIONSHIP forward quickly. Once the NARCISSIST is assured of her
belief that he does in fact IDEALIZE her, DEVALUATION SETS IN!
THE MASKS BEGINS TO FALL OFF…
THROUGHOUT MY E-BOOK, I WILL ANSWER MANY COMMON QUESTIONS VICTIM'S
TYPICALLY ASK. TO UNDERSTAND THE NARCISSIST'S CRAZY MAKING IS TO START
THE PROCESS OF HEALING!
THE #3 DEADLY MISTAKE WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE
MISTAKE #3 – WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE WHO THEY ARE DEALING WITH
NARCISSISTIC DEVALUATION
During this stage, the underside of the NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY
seeps through. His temperament changes and so does yours. He quits
calling and you call more. His messages are shorter and yours get
longer. The once confident now becomes clingy, needy, and insecure.
The once adored and IDOLIZED now gets IGNORED, confused, and resorts
to a state of confusion. He uses AVOIDING tactics, IGNORING and SILENT
TREATMENT as a form of punishment!
It’s inevitable - criticisms, recriminations and humiliations are
foisted upon the partner. The NARCISSIST conjures up the tiniest
mistake or oversight to use as an opening for a major battle. He or
she throws out empty accusations with vehemence as if they were the
worst crime ever perpetrated.
Or reverse psychology is performed and the NARCISSIST which initially
portrayed to be the ideal partner, the prince in shining armor now
uses taglines like ‘ I am no good for you or we are not good
together’! It’s an experience the victim never understands.
Probably never will.
The reality is, when a NARCISSIST is chasing after you, he uses every
lure in his box. The NARCISSIST has learned from previous performances
exactly what it takes to lure in his next catch, and will go to
extreme measures in getting what he wants. And he so often does!
THE LURE OF A NARCISSIST - CAN YOU RELATE TO FOLLOWING?
TAKE THE QUIZ…
PHASE 1 - NARCISSIST IDEALIZATION
* In the beginning did he seem God sent? The man that could see and
feel your soul?
* Was he very eager, persistent, determined and convinced that you
were the one? ‘As if the Soul-mate Theory had finally made its way
and connected the two of you’?
* Was he strikingly different in every single aspect? As in
over-the-top - the Omega Male? Or perhaps he ‘initially’ came
across as nothing more than ‘average’ and yet through his conquest
to have you, you became smitten by him? He was different than any man
you had ever met?
* Did he know all the right things to say, the words you‘ve been
craving and starving for?
* Was the sex absolutely amazing? ‘Fireworks’? Did he bring out
a side of you, you never knew existed? At least not on this level?
* Do you find that your life took on a brand new meaning? Hence -
you now have purpose; you now finally know what it feels like to be
truly on top if the world? Ecstasy?
* You have had other relationships and none of them compare?
* You spend countless amounts of time together and it never seems to
be enough?
PHASE 2 - NARCISSISTIC DEVALUATION
* Slowly and gradually as time went on, did you notice something
different about him? As in the way he treated you, the way he made you
feel? Perhaps becoming less interested?
* Did he go from being caring; tentative and showering you with tons
of attention and now shows signs of being cold and distant?
* Does he you in a state of confusion? Never knowing where you
stand, what he’s thinking or how he feels? Is he He’s Hot you know
something is wrong but you cannot find it in yourself to walk away?
It’s as if you are no longer the person you once were? The
ever-so-sexy, confident, happy, outgoing, aka ‘with-it’ girl, is
nowhere to be found? - At least not on the surface?
* Have you tried walking away from the relationship, only to find
that you’re completely obsessed with having him? One minute you
‘think’ you call the shots, and the next you are begging for mercy
and convincing him that the relationship was meant to be?
* Your memories of being happy with or without them seem so distant
but ‘his love’ is still your drug?
PHASE 3 – THE INEVITABLE ENDING
* At this stage, do you now realize it’s totally All About HIM?
Everything that was elated in the beginning, the gradual loss of his
attention as time went by, is now completely at a stand-still? It’s
as if you no longer exist and now everything is About Him?
* Do you now find yourself contacting him constantly, just praying
for the opportunity to rekindle his love and affection? Does he ignore
your attempts?
* Have you lost control over your emotions and thoughts? Do you now
feel possessed as if you are selling yourself to the devil?
* Is he now completely disinterested lacking any form of desire for
you or the relationship? As in viciously cold and totally ignoring
you? He doesn’t return calls, texts or any other form of
communication?
* When he does respond, is he brutally cold? Treating you as if
never meant anything to him?
* Does he use reverse psychology? As in making statements like ‘We
were not meant to be’, ‘We have nothing in common’, ‘You are
too good for me’, ‘We fought all the time’, ‘Why can’t you
just move on’, etc?
* Out of embarrassment, do you hide the truth from others,
pretending to be in complete control?
* Have you lost sight of what makes you happy, who you are, and what
you want to become. Do you even care about your future if it means he
won’t be in it?
* Are you convinced that life has no meaning without them?
* Do you hate yourself? Do you now find that you conscious and mind
is agreeing with many of the negative things he would say about you?
As in, ‘I am crazy’, ‘He is right’, ‘Why would he want
me’, ‘Why can’t I just move on’, ‘Something is wrong with
me’, etc?
YOUR LOVE IS MY DRUG
THE NARCISSISTS VICTIM'S
On the face of it, there is no (emotional) partner or mate, who
typically "binds" with a NARCISSIST. They come in all shapes and
sizes. The initial phases of attraction, infatuation and falling in
love are pretty normal. The NARCISSIST puts on his best face – the
other party is blinded by budding love.
Initially women have high standards and to a large degree remain
extremely picky in choosing her mate however, once you have been
struck by a Narcissist, his ability to persuade is incredible! He is
the master of acting and his seducing ways are very hard to see
through, very hard to walk away from. Again, this is why we OBSESS and
become OBSESSED with having answers! This is why the BREAK UP and
GETTING OVER the pain is so difficult!
WHAT IF I TOLD YOU IT WAS COMPLETELY POSSIBLE TO WALK AWAY FROM THIS
RELATIONSHIP? THAT YOU HOLD THE POWER?
THE #4 DEADLY MISTAKE WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE
MISTAKE #4– WOMEN OFTEN THINK NARCISSISTS SEEK THE WEAK
Hear this loud and clear… I firmly believe that the women who
NARCISSISTS are attracted to are far from being weak! In fact,
NARCISSISTIC MEN live for the chase. Always looking for bigger
brighter stars! Often the women are attractive, high achievers,
strong, confident and viewed by the NARCISSIST as having great
potential. This is also known as SOURCE OF SUPPLY.
With the NARCISSIST, it’s the grandiose illusion that he deserves
the very best in life. The best job, the best education, the best
children, the best mate and unfortunately for the victims, once the
conquest is over and the NARCISSIST has achieved his mission, the
thrill is over. The HEART BREAK, the shattered trust, knowing he
CHEATED, not having answers, the LIES, the SILENT TREATMENT, the
avoiding and rejection is what leaves us HEART BROKEN!
"THERE IS NO "TYPICAL VICTIM". WOMEN IN ALL WALKS OF LIFE, WEALTHY AND
POOR, SMART AND DUMB, TALL AND SHORT, HEAD TURNING AND LESS SO - ALL
FALL PREY TO ABUSE." DR. SAM VAKNIN
We all love ourselves or at least we should. In fact, we all carry on
some level a form of NARCISSISM. NARCISSISM in its healthy stages is
real, it was typically drives us humans to take care of ourselves. To
wake up, brush our teeth, groom ourselves, and essentially a driver in
motivating us to be our best. Again, this is the healthy stage of
NARCISSISM.
Loving your true self is healthy, it’s functional, it’s
imperative and absolutely normal.
For the NARCISSIST, it goes well beyond the levels of simply wanting
to be his best. In the mind of a NARCISSIST, he is the best and
nothing short of. He will never accept anything less than the best and
ladies….
HE WILL ALWAYS KEEP SEARCHING!
The NARCISSIST always believes that somewhere, somehow, someone is
better and they are only waiting in the winds, waiting for HIM to find
them..
THE #5 DEADLY MISTAKE WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE
MISTAKE #5 – WOMEN CONFUSE THE NARCISSISTS DEVALUATION AND BEING
DISCARDED AS A PERSONAL SIGN OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH…
Ladies, Sam writes it best.
“NARCISSISTS DON’T TAKE PARTNERS, NARCISSISTS TAKE PRISONERS”
NARCISSISTS are aided, abetted and facilitated by four types of
people and institutions: the adulators, the blissfully ignorant, the
self-deceiving and those deceived by the NARCISSIST.
While we as humans naturally want to be loved, cherished and adored,
when a woman falls in-love with a NARCISSIST, little by little
unknowingly, she begins to position herself with a ‘weaker hand’.
Through the on-going state of confusion and the ever-changing shift
that the NARCISSIST constantly spins, victims slowly begin to lose
sight of who they are. Sadly, even confident women slowly become
aka’ doormats.
If discarded or replaced by a new source of supply, VICTIM'S should
realize this is not about being replaced with someone who is perceived
as BETTER!!!
Sadly, these new sources will eventually experience what you are
experiencing! The good news is this, YOU CAN TAKE BACK YOUR POWER!
“LOVING SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T LOVE YOU IS LIKE REACHING FOR A STAR.
YOU KNOW YOU'LL NEVER REACH IT BUT YOU KEEP ON TRYING.”
THE #6 DEADLY MISTAKE WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE
MISTAKE #6 – WOMEN OFTEN SETTLE, THEY BECOME FIXATED ON A MAN THAT
IS NOT WORTHY!
Women spend entirely too much time wasting their lives while focusing
on the WRONG man! Not only so, women are far too willing to give the
man in her life the almighty power of controlling her happiness.
You need to reach beyond the remorse, the PAIN, the feelings, the
sadness, the disappointment! You need to kick your urge of wanting to
settle for yet another sleepless round of fantasia!
Plain and simple, NARCISSISTS get bored, NARCISSISTS play games and
NARCISSISTS CHEAT!
With NARCISSISTIC MEN, the GAMES never end! In fact, as sick it
sounds, as unfortunate as it truly is – NARCISSISTS thrive on GAMES.
The only way to ever truly win the GAME with a NARCISSIST is to not
play at all!
YOUR “SECRET WEAPON” AGAINST THE NARCISSIST
HERE ARE SOME OF THE SECRETS YOU'LL LEARN
INSIDE MY INFORMATIVE EBOOK
* I will show you how to regain your power back and learn how to
tame the NARCISSIST by knowing who the NARCISSIST REALLY IS! Pg. 8 –
The NARCISSISTS Fragile Ego
* In my book I will cover 6-Steps that are critical to ones
recovery! I will also cover many areas in helping you move forward and
regain your power back from NARCISSISM ABUSE. You hold the Power! Your
Power is what the NARCISSIST wants. Pg. 10 – The 6-Steps
* I will show you throughout my book how to understand and recognize
what is happening, why it’s happening and ways to cope with the
trauma and pain you are feeling! Pg. 12 – Understand IT
* When coming out of a relationship like this, the first thing we
need to do is get real with ourselves about what happened in the
relationship. Only by understanding the Narcissist do we realize we
have suffered emotional abuse and trauma at the hands of the person we
love. Pg. 13 – Charlie Sheen
* In this e-Book, I will give you the inside scoop on what's REALLY
going on inside the NARCISSISTS mind, the NARCISSISTS BEHAVIOR, the
NARCISSIST TRAITS, including the things he doesn't want you to know..
I will show you how to identify and recognize the true nature of a
NARCISSIST. I will help you understand the complex world of a
narcissist and help you understand just what it is that gives them
such power and control in your reality Pg. 16- The NARCISSIST In The
Making
* I will also show you the dynamics of a NARCISSIST and why he is
incapable of loving, why he continues to come back and why this
relationship truly fits the modern-day roller-coaster. Pg. 18 –
NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER
* I will address the crazy making of a NARCISSIST and answer
questions like, Why Does the NARCISSIST DEVALUE \">POWER IS WHAT THE
NARCISSIST WANTS
YOU hold the magical solution. YOU hold the POWER! This book will
help you begin that process!
So what are people saying?
Out of the thousands who have responded, HERE ARE JUST A FEW OF SO
MANY PEOPLE THIS BOOK HAS HELPED.. I could have never prepared for the
brutal ending that I would later face with my ex Narcissist! The pain,
the shock, the disgrace and worst of it all, no warnings and
absolutely no closure. Sure we had problems, what relationship
doesn't? But what I found after being discarded and totally
blind-sided, is that I was not his only victim! There were two of us!
I suppose what made it worse, is that after all the lies of telling me
he loved me and how we would spend the rest of our lives together, he
chose HER! This book REALLY helped me!! Thank you so much.. MEGAN -
LAKELAND, FL Dear Lisa, Therapists and friends repeatedly told me
during and after the relationship that my ex was a Narcissist (he is
after all a VERY successful actor.) At the time, I did not understand,
nor did my friends or even therapists, the magnitude of what
narcissism is. I think it was a term used lightly to describe someone
who is self-absorbed. Through many of my readings on the subject, I
learned it is much more, and my experience with a Narcissist is not
unique; however, cannot truly be understood by anyone who has not
experienced it for themselves. On my continued path to healing and
regaining my self-worth, I came across your book. It is the most
comprehensible book I have read on the subject and I can relate so
well to your experience. Thank you for your bookit's nice to know that
I'm not crazy or alone! BETH - ST. LOUIS, MO
I am nearing the end of an on again - off again, 6 year
roller-coaster ride from hell with a man just like this! So one might
question, why 6 years? I too question this. The only thing I resort
back to is the moments when is so convincing, so loving and well - the
way he treats me during the good times. What’s so frightening, the
good times never out- way the bad! This book really opened my eyes!
JESSICA – SEASIDE HEIGHTS, NJ In response to the crazy making they
cause, this book totally woke me up! It's ironic because I always told
my ex that he made me "crazy". All the ups and downs, the
roller-coaster ride that never seemed to end, it all simply took its
toll! He mentioned it a few months ago and I told him that he did make
me crazy, I didn't know why, but he was the only one that literally
made me feel crazy. Every time he broke my heart he always made
charming excuses for why he did it. But when I look back and closely
analyze his reasoning’s, he clearly blamed me for everything that
happened. I hate feeling "lost". In the end, not only was I completely
blindsided to find out he was seeing someone else during the last few
years of our relationship, but to make it worse, I hate myself for
believing all his lies. I hate myself for believing in him. He never
loved me. He was completely incapable of loving anyone. AMY – ST.
PETE, FL It wasn't that long ago when I found myself at a turning
point in my life. A time when I would painfully have to accept that
the relationship I was holding onto for the past three years had come
to its final destination. As sad as it seems, as I think and reflect
back, the relationship was merely holding on by life support, and had
been for a very long time.Even though I can see this now, I was
completely blinded by my love for him. I can only assume the majority
of my intense emotions were driven by the fact he had been my first
everything. When I say everything, I mean everything. My lover, my
first sexual experience, my best friend, my business partner, my
world. Perhaps he and I were too much alike. We both had a fighting
side to us. We could fight like the best of them and yet the making up
felt like fireworks. Either way, it was coming to an end and for the
first time in my life, I was completely losing it. I never thought I
would rebound and this book gave me so much hope. Thanks Lisa and keep
writing MICHELLE – HOUSTON, TX Lisa E. Scott's painstaking work in
reliving and recording exactly the narcissist’ rhetoric and actions
will sadly, gently ring true for many unsuspecting victims caught in
the Narcissistic Tsunami. But at some point, submerged reality will
surface to reveal the impending devastation to the victim’s sanity,
self-confidence, safe home life, workplace success, social
relationships, or perhaps even a child's dream of tomorrow. How many
tsunamis can one survive? It is the resolute actions next taken, on
the heels of realization, which charts the course of our collective
future success.or failure. DENISE MARTINE
"GIVING UP DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN YOU ARE WEAK; SOMETIMES IT MEANS THAT
YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO LET GO." -- AUTHOR UNKNOWN
Many followers of the NARCISSIST never wake up. They continue to be
selfless servants, unable to separate themselves psychologically from
him. Many of those who do become aware of the price they are paying
(giving up their own lives) make the bargain and decide that the
lifestyle and perks connected with being a part of the NARCISSISTS
charmed circle is worth it! They are wrong!
He will never change and the best revenge, what gets to a NARCISSIST,
what bothers the NARCISSIST, and the absolute best way in GETTING OVER
A BREAK UP with a NARCISSIST is to take control. take back your life
and power! These type of men can not stand seeing you happy and
especially without them!
ONE BOOK CHANGED MY LIFE AND IT CAN CHANGE YOURS!
YOU MUST BEGIN SOMEWHERE..
This eBook is stocked full of information that will not only change
the way you look at NARCISSISM but also give you a simple step program
in BREAKING free from the toxic cycles of loving a NARCISSIST and
addresses many of the secrets in what makes a NARCISSIST TICK and how
to free ourselves from his web!
SKIP MONTHS OF WONDERING AND QUESTIONING YOURSELF!!
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