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SURVIVING THE AFFAIR
HOW TO SURVIVE THE AFFAIR AND GET YOUR LIFE BACK, STARTING RIGHT
NOW!
DISCOVER THE SIMPLE STEPS TO LIVE HAPPIER THAN EVER…AFTER
INFIDELITY
IF YOU TRULY WANT TO LEARN HOW TO SURVIVE THE AFFAIR AND GET PAST
YOUR PARTNER’S CHEATING, I CAN HELP YOU. READ THIS PAGE IMMEDIATELY!
…I SHOULD KNOW, I WAS LOSING MY MIND. THESE EASY STEPS STOPPED THE
CRAZY CYCLE OF SADNESS AND DEPRESSION AFTER THE AFFAIR, AND BROUGHT ME
A BETTER LIFE THAN I’VE EVER KNOWN
Date: June 8, 2009, 10:16 p.m.
From: George Garrett
Dear Reader,
When I heard that my wife was having an affair, it was like someone
had just hit me on the head with a baseball bat, and I definitely
didn’t see it coming. I felt numb and paralyzed. I couldn’t even
feel my body. I remember thinking _“How could this be? This is the
person I trusted with my life! She’s cheating on me?‼! She’s
sleeping with somebody else? This can’t be happening. I’m going to
wake up from this nightmare…â€_
Sounds familiar?
Your experience and mine may be very similar. You’re probably
feeling like your world got completely blown to pieces, or someone
just stuck a knife in your back. I nearly lost my mind.
_"Life After The Affair_ is a must read for anyone who has been in,
will be in, or is presently in a relationship - marriage or not.
George opens our eyes to reality and helps us to cope with
infidelity by guiding us into an even better underlying mental,
emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
The book provides all the ingredients and areas we all must invest
in ourselves to live happy, fulfilling lives. Life is too short not to
pay attention! I recommend this book to my patients."
Susan Konkel, LCSW
Director, Clinician At The Highland Park Counseling Center, Highland
Park, NJ
Therapist (Marital, Family And Individual)
Expert In Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depression, And Anxiety
Disorders
Former Faculty Member And Director (PTSD) At The UMDNJ Medical
School - New Jersey
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, AND YOU ARE NOT GOING CRAZY
The real truth about relationships is…
You could be the absolute best spouse you can be, year in and year
out, BUT you can still be cheated on.
BEING A GOOD PARTNER AT HOME IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH
I know this shouldn’t be true, but it is. The fact is – being a
good partner in a relationship today has more to do with understanding
how accountable both partners really are, AND constantly investing
your time and heart to keep the relationship open, and honest, but
also interesting. Blind trust doesn’t work.
You can choose to ignore this – and be cheated on.
It happened to me.
For years I ignored this concept. I thought my dedication and
honesty as a good husband gave me permission to trust my spouse 100%,
no questions asked. I never felt threatened and never questioned
anything – I had complete trust and confidence, and why shouldn’t
I? We had exchanged vows…until death do us part.
I was wrong! DEAD WRONG!
Discovering that your spouse is having or had an affair is one of
the most painful things you’ll ever feel. It’s enough to drive you
into uncontrollable rage, sadness, denial, and a feeling of
worthlessness. You’ll find yourself going in and out of numbness,
shock, grief, anger, and even despair.
AGAIN, YOU ARE NOT ALONE…AND THESE ARE ALL NORMAL EMOTIONS
But, you must listen to what I’m going to tell you, and listen
very carefully. This is worth more than most things you’ll ever read
in any book… and it will be a huge step in your process to recovery
– NEVER blame yourself for what happened. Never!
It’s easy to fall into that trap and your mind will play tricks on
you. BUT, no matter what…
DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!
Yes, there are two people in your relationship (it takes two to
tango, as the saying goes), and there may be areas that need some
work, but you certainly did not push your spouse into an affair. No
matter what you may be feeling or might have been told, your partner
chose to cheat on you and you certainly were not a part of that
decision. You’re not the cause!
So, now what?
You feel hurt, betrayed, and may be feeling like you can’t get
beyond this, and happiness looks like a distant dream. Who ever
thought you could really have your heart broken? Because it really
does feel like a break inside. My mind even played tricks on me. I had
thoughts of rage toward my wife and her lover. Yes, it scared me to
have these thoughts, but they were real.
I THOUGHT I WAS STUCK IN A STATE OF DEPRESSION
Someone once said to me “…time heals all woundsâ€. Honestly, I
was really annoyed by that comment because I felt like my insides had
been torn to shreds, and Hallmark quotes of this kind may be true, but
did nothing to help me at that time. My wife’s affair and my deep
sadness was all I could think about. I needed to find a way to start
feeling better and I didn’t want to wait forever for “time†to
do its healing.
I couldn’t allow my emotions to run wild anymore. Every single day
I just felt like I was just floating adrift and lost. So, I read every
book and listened to every audio program I could get my hands on, and
I even started to go to counseling.
I’M GOING TO BE TOTALLY HONEST WITH YOU,
I WASTED A LOT OF MONEY AND TIME
(more than I care to admit)
I’D LIKE YOU TO AVOID MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES I MADE.
I'm not going to lie to you. There are a lot of books and advice out
there, some good, and some not worth the time and the expense. And,
you can waste a lot of money and time trying and searching for much
needed help and guidance, only to get more frustrated and lost than
you were before.
You can find yourself turning in ten directions trying to find
help…I know I did. I felt overwhelmed and discouraged. And everyone
around me (friends and family) was all too happy to give me plenty of
“advice†on what I should be doing. Most of the advice was not
good at all, but at the time I didn’t know…
I KNOW HOW YOUR HEART FEELS RIGHT NOW, I WAS THERE AND SOMEHOW… AT
THAT TIME, I JUST KNEW I NEEDED TO SEE THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE
TUNNEL.
I was tired of not feeling alive, and I desperately wanted to stop
the cycle of sadness and resentment. Some mornings I barely had the
desire to get out of bed. There had to be a way or a method to turn my
life around. So, I searched high and low to find such a system, but
came up short. I knew that there was only one thing I could do to
reach a simple approach to get my life on track – Take control and
assume responsibility for my recovery.
I HAD TO CREATE A SIMPLE APPROACH TO GET MY LIFE BACK.
SO, THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT I DID.
Then something amazing happened. I started to follow some (really)
simple steps one day, and it started to work - the heaviness I was
feeling every day started to lift. Then it worked again the following
day. And again the following day.
I was catching on. After a lot of trial and error, and sorting
through so much information and advice, I had finally figured out what
worked (and discarded what didn't). I finally discovered how to move
toward getting a constant flow of wellbeing in my life every day. I
even started to have several glimpses of feeling pretty good at some
points of my day.
I started to feel alive again, one day at a time. Of course, I'm
not talking about a quick fix here, but real practical strategies and
proven ideas you can start applying right now to bring balance into
your life, and get you on the right path to feeling good about your
life again at your own pace.
ONE STRATEGY ALONE IN MY BOOK CAN HELP
PULL YOU OUT OF THE FEELING OF HELPLESSNESS AND SADNESS
STARTING TODAY!
This is already a very difficult time for you and right now you need
a clear step-by-step guide to navigate through the confusion one day
at a time.
FOCUSING ON DAILY ACTIONS THAT REALLY WORK, WILL GIVE YOU STRENGTH
AND ENERGY TO GET PAST THE AFFAIR
My simple steps worked for me and they can work for you too, as it
has worked for many others.
NOW YOU CAN FOLLOW THESE SIMPLE STEPS TOO.
I wrote this book totally focused on just the needed tips and steps
you need right now to start turning your life in a better direction.
Trust me (I did it the hard way), the last thing you need right now
is to be buying a dozen books and reading thousands of pages to try to
find those key, essential things you need to know and apply right now.
This is how I wasted so much time and money, at a time when I
desperately needed some easy to understand guiding steps.
I put together easy-to-follow ideas in an easy format, and in very
plain English. The key chapters in the book are designed to help you
SOLVE the common challenges you're facing today, or will be facing
soon.
HERE'S AN EXAMPLE OF THE CRITICAL AREAS:
* CHANGE THE FOCUS IN YOUR LIFE AND START FEELING ALIVE(What You
Must Do Immediately). Learn one of the most powerful and simple
secrets you'll ever learn to live happily for the rest of your life.
(If you make this commitment, your life will start to turn around
right now, and it's most likely not what you're thinking) _PAGE 12_
* THE AFFAIR - DID IT REALLY MEAN ANYTHING? (Why You May Be
Sabotaging Your Chances Of Reconciliation And
What You Need To Do First And How)_PAGE 17_
* WHY DID IT HAPPEN? (Why Today's Lifestyle Can Be Pre-Wired For
Infidelity And What You Must Know To Affair-Proof Your Life - if I
could ask you to remember and apply just ONE SINGLE TIP from this
book, this
would be it) _PAGE 28_ * DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNER? LEARN TO READ
THE SIGNS (Sure Fire Ways To Know If You're (Still) Being Cheated On -
The signals are there all along, but now I'm going to reveal to you
how to avoid the "blind spot" that keeps you from reading them) _PAGE
35_
* STOP THE AFFAIR NOW, ONE WAY OR ANOTHER (You Must Know Exactly
What Kind Of Affair Your Spouse Is Involved In Or You'll Waste Your
Time Trying To Stop It - If there's a chance to save your marriage,
you have to know this first) _PAGE 52_
* HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE REALLY RECONCILING? (There Is A Risk
This Will Never Happen Until You Follow This Simple PrincipleHow to
stop the habits that destroy almost every marriage. Start reconciling
on solid ground) em>PAGE 63
* YOUR RELATIONSHIP SURVIVED THE AFFAIR? NOW WHAT? (What You Must
Continue To Do To Stay On Track And Protect The Process Of Recovery)
_PAGE 74_
* FACING DIVORCE - A FEW CRITICAL THINGS YOU MUST KNOW (This One
Divorce Tip Is Not For Everyone, But It Can Save You A Small Fortune -
this means more money in your pocket) _PAGE 84_
* STEPPING INTO A NEW LIFE - HOW TO DO IT RIGHT (Learn How To Set
Your Boundaries In This Area - even more critical if there are
children involved) _PAGE 93_
* TIPS TO HELP YOU HEAL AND FIND THE "HAPPIER YOU" (Learn To Press
Your Brain's "Happy" Buttons Without Consciously Thinking About It -
this tip alone jump started my new life with feelings of happiness and
a daily positive outlook) _PAGE 99_
* AVOIDING THE TRAP OF ANGER AND DEPRESSION (Discover The One Truth
That Can Completely Set You Free - not easy to face, but it's one of
the keys to your happiness) _PAGE 106_
* LESSONS LEARNED AND A LITTLE WISDOM FOR THE ROAD AHEAD (Learn How
I Completely Eliminated Stress In My Life 6 Years Ago, And How You Can
Too - anyone can do this) _PAGE 116_
* TESTING THE ROMANCE FIELD (AGAIN) COULD BE DANGEROUS (Protect
Yourself With This Simple Tip - know the rules of the game and you'll
be fine) _PAGE 121_
* HOW TO LIVE HAPPY (after the affair) AND LIVE FULLY (Learn This
Secret And Unleash The Life You Were Meant To Live - Yes, you can be
happy again and possibly happier) _PAGE 124_
WHAT WORKS IS SIMPLER THAN YOU MIGHT THINK
WANT TO GRAB YOUR COPY NOW?
"How Long Will It Take To See Results?"
Some of the strategies will get results immediately. You can start
using them today and see results today - you can start to feel a
difference. Others could take a couple of weeks and some will take a
few months. Within 6 months, you will be amazed at the way you feel
about your life compared to now.
Admittedly, my book just is NOT for everyone. If you want to stay in
your "comfort zone", if you have a closed mind, if you aren't ready to
confront the naked truth about what works vs. what doesn't, or if you
aren't very serious about improving your life, then this is not the
book for you.
But if you feel you ARE ready to get past the affair, take control
of your life, and start working on a "new", happier life, then you
simply cannot afford to miss this book. And it doesn't matter if you
are staying married or looking at life post-divorce.
I'LL TELL YOU OPENLY
WRITING THIS BOOK WAS NEVER A PART OF MY PLAN.
There are many books on the subject out there, and it takes a lot
more than a book to show you how to get your life on track after the
heavy blow of an affair. But after seeing my life turn around and
helping a few others do the same, I knew my simple steps worked, and
it felt good seeing other people rebound from an affair and find a way
to be happy in life.
After my experience and the ideas and tips I was able to put in the
book, I realized that I cared about helping other people regain their
life again with simple and practical steps they can follow.
Even if I only helped 10 people, those are 10 people I feel really
grateful for having had the opportunity to help them.
I know how it feels to hurt inside and I know that trying to figure
things out on your own can prolong the pain and it's not the way to
go. By taking the steps I explain you can develop a personal plan
while saving time and money.
I'M SO SURE YOU'LL FIND VALUE IN THIS BOOK,
I'LL GUARANTEE IT
If after reading the book, and honestly applying the recommended
steps in your own life you feel you are not completely satisfied and
don't believe you can benefit from any of the ideas in the book, I'll
give you 60 days to get a full refund. I wouldn't be able to offer
this guarantee unless I was positive that you can benefit from the
ideas I put together in this book.
My guarantee is straight forward. You don't need to argue with me
or even give me a reason. If you aren't completely happy with the tips
in my book, just let me know and I'll refund every cent.
Now you may be wondering
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You can make the case that it costs nothing - because it's going to
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you save your relationship or possibly pursue a divorce.
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I thank you for having had the courage to search for help, just like
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You will not regret it. You deserve all the happiness in the world and
you too will get past this phase in your life. One day at a time you
will do it, and happier days WILL come. I know you can do it.
Best regards,
P.S. Unless you take action RIGHT NOW and begin to take care of
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_"Life After The Affair_ is a must read for anyone who has been in,
will be in, or is presently in a relationship - marriage or not.
George opens our eyes to reality and helps us to cope with
infidelity by guiding us into an even better underlying mental,
emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
The book provides all the ingredients and areas we all must invest
in ourselves to live happy, fulfilling lives. Life is too short not to
pay attention! I recommend this book to my patients."
Susan Konkel, LCSW
Director, Clinician At The Highland Park Counseling Center, Highland
Park, NJ
Therapist (Marital, Family And Individual)
Expert In Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depression, And Anxiety
Disorders
Former Faculty Member And Director (PTSD) At The UMDNJ Medical
School - New Jersey
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