Married to A Child Molester? Take Charge and Move On

Getting Past Being Married to a Child Molester Take Charge and
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Stop Letting What Happened _to_ You Ruin Your Life

TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON

HOW TO GET YOUR LIFE BACK
WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE HAS BEEN MOLESTING CHILDREN.

Wednesday Morning
From Dr Pat

Few people can understand the pain, grief and self doubt women
experience when they discover their husband, father, or partner has
been accused of molesting children.

It’s easy for friends, relatives — even people you don’t know
—
to tell you what you could do and should do.
Usually with little if any understanding
of what’s really happening for you,
your children and your lives.

It’s very difficult to find anyone
who can really help and not hurt.

Now you have found someone.

Let me introduce myself.

As a young woman, I thought my life couldn’t get better. I was
married, had a great son, my own career was doing well, we had a huge
collection of wonderful friends and relatives. It all looked like the
perfect life.

Until I got a call early one morning from my child psychologist
husband. He was calling from jail after being arrested for child
molestation.

You may not have gotten a call from jail, but you know how getting
the news feels. In a moment, your life changes. You’re sure it will
never to be the same.

For months, I stood by my husband. I just knew the accusations were
false.  I assured him we would get past this. Certainly the real
truth would out. Our lives could go back to some version of what it
had been.

Then, a former neighbor and good friend told me my husband had
molested her child.  And, once again, I knew my life would never be
the same.

_Your story may be different than mine in the details. Most women
who have had experiences like ours report at first they just
couldn’t believe what they heard. Then, as the stories unfolded and
more information was revealed, there was no question._

_THEY REALLY WERE MARRIED TO A CHILD MOLESTER._

If this is you, unfortunately, you have lots of company. Hundreds of
thousands of women go through the same pain every year.

Most of us suffer too long, trying to find help: legal, financial,
and emotional.

Many are shunned by friends, blamed by law enforcement,
misunderstood by “helping professionals,” and abandoned by friends
and families. Tarred by the brush of their husbands' misdeeds.

And end up struggling to put their lives back in-order.

All by themselves.

All by yourself.

Friends and family, even strangers, claim you must have known, and
excused or denied his behavior. They just can’t imagine how someone
could have been so deceptive.

_Most therapists and social workers haven't had the training or
experience to understand what you’ve been going through or how to
help you move on with your life._

The legal system, from law enforcement and attorneys to the court
officers and judges, hold you responsible for knowing about and not
stopping your husband’s abuse.

_Religious advisers typically exhort you to read scriptures, pray
and ask for forgiveness. Then they pressure you to keep your family
together at all costs._

The bottom line: MOST “HELPERS” BLAME AND SHAME BECAUSE THEY
DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO. They can be so horrified that their
professional skills and tools are eclipsed by their discomfort and
lack of confidence because they  don't know  how to help.

Truth be told, many women never recover from the trauma of their
husbands' misdeeds. Especially when the assault continues from
professionals who hurt rather than help.

HOW DO I KNOW?

I went through the same pressures and pain you've been experiencing.


Until that day when I had a major wake up call. I’m not sure where
I got the courage that day to step back, take a good look at myself,
remind myself that my Ph.D. was in psychology and that I’d literally
helped hundreds of people change their lives, take a new path and let
go of the pain and trauma they’d been through.

It finally dawned on me that I could do the same thing for myself.

It wasn’t easy. It wasn’t always fun. And it almost always had
challenges that I had to overcome.

_Slowly but surely, from the research I’d been doing and from the
new tools and techniques for changing my behavior I’d been
developing, I started to smile again — and then laugh._

I stopped being so angry and started distancing myself from what he
had done. I no longer accepted the responsibility for his deplorable
behavior.

MOST IMPORTANT, I STOPPED BLAMING MYSELF AND STARTED TAKING CHARGE
OF MY LIFE. I decided where I wanted to go and who I wanted to be.
Then I worked to make my new vision of myself a reality.

Eventually I wrote a book about my experiences, thinking this was
the end of the line.

I’d done my part in helping other women.

I picked up my career, started working again, eager to let go and
get past what had happened to me.

But I still got the emails and the calls.

“Are you the woman who wrote the book?”

And, as soon as I said yes, another story would come out.

_For years, all I could offer was "read my book."_

_It has not been enough._

There are still too many women who are in major pain and suffering
as they discover that yesterday or last month, tomorrow or next month,
they have joined the silent sisterhood of women who have been married
to men who molest children.

Recently the media has been full of so many gruesome horror stories
of  about men who wouldn't keep their hands to themselves. Seeing the
faces of their wives on the television really pushed me into action.

_I know how to help and haven’t been doing it. It’s time to make
amends and make a difference._

_INTRODUCING_.

_TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON_

_A STEP-BY-STEP, 9 MONTH PROGRAM_

_FOR SPOUSES AND PARTNERS OF CHILD MOLESTERS_

_TO DESIGN A NEW LIFE FOR YOURSELF AFTER ALL YOU’VE BEEN THROUGH_

The _TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON_ learning program has been designed to
help women like you to move past the feelings of frustration, rage and
helplessness — to begin feeling better, starting with the first few
days.

_Every week for nine months, you’ll receive an email with a
special download link for that week’s step -by-step lesson. Included
in the lessons are assignments to complete so you’ll make progress
every single week._

Over the next nine months you’ll craft a new version of your life
and a new you as we cover how to:

* Stop crying and start taking action to make things better for
yourself.
* Stop trying to control the uncontrollable and step back to take
charge.
* GET PAST YOUR ANGER AND GET ON WITH WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO.
* Develop a more accurate picture of who you are and what you’re
worth.
* GO BEYOND CHANGING YOUR FEELINGS (IT ISN'T ENOUGH!) AND LEARN
WHAT ELSE YOU NEED TO DO FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR WELL-BEING.
* Re-own your power to make positive things happen for yourself.
* USE 3 STRATEGIES FOR UNTANGLING YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT FORGIVING THE
UNFORGIVABLE.
* Chart a course for taking action and making changes that count.
* DEVELOP 6 NEW STRATEGIES FOR GETTING BACK ON TRACK WHEN YOU GET
DISCOURAGED OR DISHEARTENED.

Instead of simply publishing this information in an eBook or quick
coaching program, I’m making it available to you _week after week in
action sized portions_ so you’ll actually get the results you want
and deserve.

You don’t need another eBook that will clutter up your computer
— or more theories to clutter up your brain. What you need, what I
wish I’d had, is a weekly “here’s what to do next” action step
to complete. You need someone to help you get started quickly and then
keep teaching you week after week so you don’t get stalled along the
way.

And, that’s exactly what I am going to do when you join other
women, just like you, and _TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON__._

As a member of the Take Charge group you’ll receive

One 2-5 Page Weekly Lesson for 9 Months - 39 Individual Study
Guides!

In Downloadable .pdf Format

Every lesson is strategically created in such a way that you’ll
see fast results. Each one:

_1.   IS SHORT AND EASY TO DIGEST._

Each lesson is only 2-5 pages in length and contains nothing but
"meat." There is a very real problem these days with "information
overload" where the reader simply has too much information to absorb.
Each lesson is purposefully brief (but thorough!) so you can quickly
read it and put it into practice.

_ 2. INCLUDES AN ASSIGNMENT TO COMPLETE._

Every weekly lesson will give you an assignment to complete at the
close of the information. Instead of giving you the usual "this is
what I've done" story, I'm giving you "this is what _you_ do" action
steps! Each week you'll have some easy-to-implement action steps to
complete before moving on.

_3. BUILDS AS YOU GO._
Every lesson builds along with your _Taking Charge for Yourself
_activities. Early on we'll discuss some basics so you can quickly
establish a solid base from which to grow. From there, we'll move into
intermediate and then advanced concepts and tactics for multiplying
and maximizing your move on to a better life.

_4. CHALLENGES YOU TO SUCCEED LONG-TERM._

While most online books (and even some high-priced coaching
programs) pile on a bunch of information and leave you to put it all
together for yourself, that isn't how things are set up in this
training program. By giving you information in bite-sized portions for
a full nine months (39 weeks!) you'll be more likely to actually do
something with the content — and you'll be more likely to see real
results for yourself.

_5. HELPS YOU MAKE REAL PROGRESS._

When you look back at the end of each month, you'll actually be able
to see the progress you've made by putting these lessons into
practice. You'll actually be able to see how your life is changing
step-by-step because you'll be following a systematic, weekly plan of
action. It will tell you exactly _when _you need to take certain steps
and _how_ you'll take them.

"WILL IT WORK FOR ME?"

I know it's easy to be skepticalI would have been too. If I were
reading this I would think no one could understand what I was feeling,
how tough things were for me, the pressures I was getting. But take a
moment to see what other women have said about this course

Even though I had “supportive” friends and family, and spent
tons of money on therapy through my medical plan with a sweet, young
therapist who hadn’t lived anything but the good life, I couldn’t
figure out how to feel better or get past what had happened to me. 
When I started your program, I realized right away that you were
someone who KNEW what I was feeling and thinking. Finally I’m able
to make the changes I need to make.  _Ann M - Wisconsin_

I was the queen of stuck, after I found out that I’d been married
to a child molester.  I was so caught up with feeling angry, shamed,
confused and wronged that I seemed unable to be anything else.  I let
it define me and my life.  I knew I wasn't being good for myself, or
good for my  kids, but I just couldn't see how to get out of it.
Through TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON, you have helped me dissolve that
super-glue and get on with my new life. I am so grateful.  _Maria L -
Arizona_

Thank you, thank, you, thank you for showing me the way and giving
me the tools I could use to take back my life. I have finally been
able to move on and become that wonderful person I knew was inside,
but so wrapped up in the insulation of hurt I couldn’t find her.
_Peggy Ann G - Texas_

I am so grateful you wrote this program with practical tools I could
digest and put it into use.  I am a changed woman. I only wish I
could give you the great big hug I am feeling. _Edith S. - Florida_

Each weekly lesson is designed to be "to the point" and immediately
actionable.

THE FIRST LESSON IS COMING YOUR WAY AS SOON AS YOU COMPLETE YOUR
ORDER.

INCLUDED IN YOUR FIRST LESSON

* HOW TO GET STARTED WITH YOUR OWN TAKING CHARGE AND MOVING ON
PROGRAM EVEN BEFORE YOU HAVE ALL THE LESSONS.
* A 10-step "Startup Checklist" broken down into bite-sized action
steps!
* HOW TO KEEP TRACK OF THE CHANGES YOU ARE MAKING TO COMBAT THE
INEVITABLE CHALLENGES AND DIFFICULTIES YOU ARE STILL GOING THROUGH.
* 4 simple things to do to start feeling better and doing better in
just 2-3 hours each week!

_YOU'LL GET THIS INSTANTLY AFTER YOU JOIN BELOW. _

Everything you need to understand the _TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON_
concept and get started is included in just a few short pages.

The format is simple -

LESSON NUMBER ONE WILL EXPLAIN A BASIC OVERVIEW OF HOW YOU CAN START
TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE IN JUST A FEW SHORT MONTHS.

Then, we'll take a handful of lessons to walk you through each of
the initial steps with some "golden nuggets" on getting better and
faster results with less work — and less pain.

AFTER THAT, WE'LL LOOK AT SOME ADVANCED STRATEGIES FOR TAKING YOUR
_TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON _PROGRAM TO THE TO THE NEXT LEVEL OF PROFOUND
CHANGE IN YOUR FEELINGS, YOUR ACTIONS AND YOUR LIFE. YOU’LL GET
BEYOND “BEING IN RECOVERY” AND BEGIN A FULFILLED AND SATISFYING
LIFE.

Intermingled throughout the series will be lessons on new problem
solving strategies, tips and suggestions for helping your children,
along with ideas, activities and suggested readings to help you
understand you are not alone — and just as important — aren’t
responsible for what he did.

Then, we'll close out our series with a big bang that is going to
knock your socks off and help you not just do better, but help you get
back on track if you start slipping.

WANT TO KNOW THE BEST PART? CHECK THIS OUT -

The _TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON__ PROGRAM_ is Totally Affordable

_Even for Those on Really Tight Budgets!_

I know what it’s like to live on an alley cat budget, having to
make every penny count. And I know that many people would be willing
to pay hundreds of dollars for this information. If I were working
with you one-on-one, it would have to be more than $100 a session.

However, I've been through the pain and trauma you’ve experienced
and I remember how tight money can be. Your dollars need to stretch
for rent, food, gas, clothes for your kids, and paying for the lights
and heat. But, it's necessary that a little bit — only $17-a-month
needs to go for you. You deserve and must have help so you can become
more productive and healthy, can _TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE AND MOVE
ON_ to more success and prosperity. No matter how you define it, your
ideal, productive and guilt-free life, what you spend for this course
is as essential as any other health care expense.

So I set the price for a subscription to _TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON_
at just $17 a month. While the complete program runs nine months, you
can cancel anytime you choose. If you’re not seeing the results,
then it doesn’t cost you anything further.

I've been asked, "Hey Dr. Pat, how can you charge so little?
What’s the catch?" Here’s the deal. I’m retired so now I only
work at projects where I think I can make a difference. I know _TAKE
CHARGE AND MOVE ON_ can make a big difference for women like us who
have gone through — or are going through — this particular pain.

On the other hand, I also know that if I don’t charge something
you are less likely to use the materials and make the changes that
will make a difference in your life. No one fully values what they get
for free.

So, it’s a win-win. I cover the course expenses and, for just
about $4 a week, you get a new pain-free way to live. I want you to
have the kind of full, fulfilled and emotionally stable life I now
have. And I understand you will have to work to achieve the changes.
I’m confident that the _TAKE CHARGE AND MOVE ON_ course can _take
you to a better place in your life._

JOIN NOW AND START FEELING AND DOING BETTER THIS WEEK

Yes, Dr Pat! I want my 2-5 page weekly lesson to learn how to start
Taking Charge of my life and Move On to the life I want for myself and
my family. _I HAVE READ AND AGREED TO THE LEGAL DISCLAIMERS BELOW._

Your initial charge will be $17.00 for the first month. You will
then be charged for $17.00/month for the next 8 months after your
initial charge has been made.

Click Here To Order Now!

YOU WILL RECEIVE YOUR FIRST LESSON INSTANTLY

(Even At 3 A. M. On A Saturday Morning!)

You will receive an email every week with a download link for your
weekly .pdf lesson.

Every effort has been made to accurately represent this product and
its potential. Please remember each individual's success depends on 
her background, dedication, desire, and motivation. As with any
attempt at personal change, here is no certain guarantee that you will
be successful.

Legal Information

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I mentioned this earlier, but I want to stress it one more time.
When you download these lessons, unadvertised bonuses and special
resources, they become a permanent part of your personal library.

Once you have your lessons downloaded to your computer, they are
yours. You can (and should!) complete every lesson when they are
delivered. You will be surprised at how quickly you’ll feel much
better, and how much better you are at managing your kids, job,
extended family — even your interactions with “the man.”

These resources are yours to keep. You can refer to them any time,
as often and as long as you need them. (I still go back to my original
notes for myself — not as often, but I still find there’re times I
just need a refresher and a little motivation to move on — again.)

So, if this sounds exactly like what you have been waiting and
looking for, don't suffer another day or hour of pain. Let's get
started right now.

P. S. If you are still uncertain about joining,

Patricia Wiklund Ph.D.
236 West Portal Ave #349
San Francisco, CA 94127

drpat at evensongpubs dot com

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