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Dear Friend,
To say that I was shocked would be an understatement.
My friend Barb, a vivacious 34 year-old divorcee with a wonderful 8
year-old son made a confession
"Ever since my divorce, I just haven't been able to meet anyone I'm
the least bit
attracted to. I'm begining to think that perhaps I never will. The
guys that come
up to me are a bunch of creeps, and those I wish would approach me,
never do.
Maybe I'm just not worthy of a great guy."
The reason I was so amazed by this confession was that if there was
anyone who deserved a great guy, it was Barb. Funny, smart,
attractiveshe was by anyone's standards, a great catch.
Yet here she was, 9 months after her divorce feeling as if she
wasn't worthy of a great relationship. And that was just WRONG.
My conversation with Barb got me thinking about something that makes
no sense to me_WHY ARE SO MANY GREAT WOMEN WITHOUT GREAT GUYS?_ Why
are there so many smart, fun, attractive women sitting alone by
themselves on Saturday night?
Unfortunately, most women just don't have a clue about how a guy
thinks. What attracts us. What we're afraid of. HOW OUR OUTWARD SHELL
SO OFTEN DRAMATICALLY HIDES WHO WE REALLY ARE INSIDE.
IF YOU COULD ONLY UNDERSTAND HOW WE THINK, I GUARANTEE THAT YOU
COULD ATTRACT ANY GUY YOU WANTED, WITHOUT EVER CHANGING ANYTHING ABOUT
YOURSELF. And that's precisely what I want to share with you today.
Marian would often come to me and ask my opinion on the relationship
issues her clients were facing. She never betrayed any confidences,
but apparently my advice was helpful. Word got out and I found that I
was spending a lot of time giving "a guy's perspective" on the
challenges women face with finding, attracting and keeping a great
guy.
Over the years Marian suggested that I expand what I was doing
informally for a few people, into a business that could help a larger
number of women. I'll admit that I wasn't all that interested, but
Marian kept after me. One day she said something that both pumped up
my ego, and made a lot of sense.
_"Think of this as a way to give back. I mean you're precisely the
type of guy lots of women would like to find. You're well educated,
earn a very good living, not too hard on the eye, good sense of humor,
self-confident and you genuinely like and respect women._
_THE REALITY IS THAT WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW MEN REALLY THINK.
Women need to understand these differences and I think you've got a
unique ability to TRANSLATE WHAT GUYS DO AND SAY IN A WAY THAT WOMEN
UNDERSTAND."_
HERE'S SOME GOOD NEWS There are a lot of guys like me out there.
Guys you'd love to meet and date. But here's the irony much like you,
most of them haven't yet found that really great woman.
They'd love to meet you. But...the odds are they won't.
UNLESS SOMETHING CHANGES. WHICH ONLY _YOU_ HAVE THE POWER TO DO.
Let me tell you a quick story. IT EXPLAINS WHY THE TYPES OF GUYS
THAT BARB WANTED TO MEET, NEVER INTRODUCED THEMSELVES TO HER.
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* Re-entering the dating scene after a divorce raises a lot of
self-esteem issues. HERE ARE THE MESSAGES YOU WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU'RE
NOT SENDING.
* SETTING BOUNDARIES with the new guys in your life.
* What makes women appear "NEEDY" even when they're not.
* WHAT'S ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS MEN LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN?
I call it a _"Youthful Mindset"_. This is what it means, and how you
can develop one.
* HOW TO DECIDE WHEN TO SLEEP WITH A MAN SO THAT IT ENHANCES (NOT
DESTROYS) THE RELATIONSHIP.
* The clues men send out that you have long-term relationship
potential.
* Are you making it _"hard"_ for men to want to be with you? The
good news is the most common reasons this happens are easily
correctable.
* Baggage. Yes you probably have some. Make sure yours doesn't
needlessly turn off the guys you most want to attract.
* WHY MEN ARE AFRAID TO COMMIT.
* What are the warning signs that a guy isn't right for you?
* How soon to start dating after your divorce.
* The best conversation starters, and what topics to avoid like the
plague.
* HOW TO GET YOUR "GREAT GUY" TO FINALLY COMMIT AND TAKE THE
RELATIONSHIP TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
* _"EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY"_ is a HUGE issue for most women. But
here's something you may not realizemen define it VERY differently
than women.
* WHAT MEN WON'T TELL YOUBUT DO THINK ABOUT DATING & RELATIONSHIPS.
* And much, much more
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PLEASE ALLOW ME TO SHARE A QUICK STORY WITH YOU.
I was a speaker at a conference two years ago. After the talk I went
to relax at the hotel bar. I'm an incorrigible people watcher and what
I saw just fascinated me.
The bar was semi-crowded, and this being Los Angeles, it was filled
with very attractive women. Sitting at a table with a girlfriend was a
woman in her 30s who later became a dear friend of mine, named
Gabriella Sobranni.
As she would be the first to admit, Gabby was not blessed with
anything close to classic good looks. Nose a bit to large, eyes set a
touch close together, a figure that perhaps could best be described as
"lanky". In other words, Gabby was not someone who was ever going to
stop traffic with her looks.
I could tell that she and her girlfriend were playing some sort of
game. Apparently the wager was for a dollar since I noticed her friend
paying off the "bet" periodically, as I became more and more
intrigued.
As best I could determine, the bet was whether Gabby could get a guy
at the bar to come over to her table and start up a conversation. It
seemed that Gabby couldn't leave her seat, call out to the guy or send
a waiter over with a drink. She had to get their attention, and get
them to respond strictly through her body language and facial
expression.
Nothing sleazy or tacky was going on. Gabby wasn't trying to "score"
like the pickup artists doshe wasn't going to sleep with any of them.
All she and her friend were trying to do is see if they could get guys
they found attractive to come over and strike up a conversation.
Now I will tell you that while Gabby may not be classically
beautiful, she has an inner radiance. She sends a strong message that
she's at ease with herself and most importantlyFUN TO BE WITH.
As I looked on in amazement, guy after guy came over to her table to
talk. And these weren't day laborers grabbing a Bud after work. No,
this was the lobby bar of the Four Seasons. The guys were well
dressed, attractive, obviously the type that most women would find
extremely desirable.
Time and time again, Gabby's friend would point to a guy at the bar,
and in less than 15 minutesthere he would be at their table, engaged
in an animated and obviously enjoyable conversation.
I shook my head in amazement, and gazed out onto the lobby to
reflect on what I had witnessed. I couldn't have been more surprised
when a minute later I looked up to find Gabby and her friend standing
by my chair asking if they could join me. As much as I might have
wished that it was my animal magnetism that attracted them, the truth
was that they had attended my relationship workshop that afternoon and
wanted to talk "shop".
This was two years ago, and this chance meeting set the path for my
discovering a secret that will enable you to attract any man you
desire. What I learned that afternoon EXPLAINS WHY YOU SO SELDOM MEET
THE TYPES OF GUYS YOU MOST WANT TO DEVELOP A RELATIONSHIP WITH.
I'D LIKE TO SHARE WITH YOU THE LESSON I LEARNED FROM GABBY,
AND TELL YOU HOW YOU CAN APPLY IT IN YOUR OWN LIFE.
It starts with understanding the type of guy you want to attract. If
I had to guess it's someone who's:
* Self-confident, but not egotistical.
* Successful, but not consumed by work.
* Knows when to be serious, and when to be light-hearted.
* Genuinely likes women.
* Curious about you, your dreams, hopes and ambitions.
* Both a good listener and a good conversationalist.
* A great sense of humor.
There's probably more, but I think we'd agree that this is not a bad
start.
As I mentioned, the good news is that there are actually a fair
number of guys like that out there. Not huge numbers, but enough to go
around.
BUT HERE'S THE PROBLEM, AND IT'S WHY WE TEND NOT TO MEET YOU. It's
hard for me to explain this is a way that doesn't sound incredibly
egotistical, but I'll give it a try.
We know that we're a good catch. (Much like you should know that
about yourself.)
As a result, we are deathly afraid that you'll lump us into a group
that we have no respect for.
Who are those people we're so terribly concerned you'll associate
with us?
The pickup artiststhe playersthe sleaze-balls who come up to you
uninvited with their inane pickup lines. The seemingly ever-increasing
hordes of guys who view meeting women as some sort of stupid contest
in which they judge their "success" by the volume of bed partners and
phone numbers they can collect.
WE'D RATHER CHAPERONE A HIGH SCHOOL DANCE THAN HAVE YOU THINK WE'RE
THAT TYPE OF PERSON.
SO I THINK YOU SEE WHERE I'M GOING WITH THIS.
The unfortunate reality is that we probably won't come over and
strike up a conversation because we're afraid that you'll think we're
just yet another slick asshole who's only interested in quick score.
Or, at least we won't come overUNLESS SOMETHING HAPPENS FIRST.
(Which I'll explain in just a moment.)
Not only do we not want to be lumped into the category of players
and pick-up artists, but also we've seen what you women do after an
advance has been rejected. The huddled heads and giggling. We can only
imagine what you're saying.
No, the truth is that we don't go where we're not invited. It
doesn't have to be a huge invitation. We're smart. We pick up clues.
But IF YOU WANT US TO INTRODUCE OURSELVES, YOU'VE GOT TO MAKE IT SAFE
FOR US TO DO SO.
IN A CLASSY WAY.
IN A FUN WAY.
IN A WAY THAT'S CONSISTENT WITH WHO YOU ARE.
That was the beauty of Gabby's approach. She made it safe and fun
for the great guys to approach her. I remember watching the buxom
blond chicks at the Four Seasons scrutinizing Gabby out of the corners
of their eyes. You could see their tiny brains spinning, _"Why is that
guy going over there to talk with her? I'm much hotter."_
You see, most women don't get this. Sure guys like hot chicks.
They're fun to look at. But that's not what we're really looking for.
So if you want the great guys to introduce themselves to you, you
need to learn how to send out the signals that they're looking for.
Which is why I want to show you a proactive approach for meeting
great guys. IT'S BASED ON WHAT GUYS REALLY RESPOND TO, NOT WHAT WOMEN
THINK TURNS US ON.
I'll discuss both the mindset that you should develop, as well as
the techniques that will enable you to meet men in a way that's both
FUN and SAFE
When you finish this program you'll not only have a new perspective,
but also a compete set of tools and insights that will enable you
connect with any man _you_ want and begin things right.
I've spent the past 2 years putting this program together. It's not
just another ebook but a complete downloadable audio & visual
presentation in which you'll hear me explain PRECISELY WHAT YOU CAN
DO-WITHOUT CHANGING A SINGLE THING ABOUT YOURSELF-TO ATTRACT GREAT
GUYS. It's based on over 115 conversations I've had with my own
personal group of Great Guys You'd Love To Meet, and a lot of women
like Gabby.
But let me warn youit's totally candid. I'M GOING TO SHARE
INFORMATION WITH YOU THAT'S PROBABLY VERY DIFFERENT THAN WHAT YOUR
GIRLFRIENDS TELL YOU. Butif you're finally ready to take a proactive
approach to finding the proverbial man of your dreams (and "YES" he
does exist) then this is information you need to have.
YOU'LL LEARN.
* What signals to send that let a guy know you're interested in
having him approach you.
* How to be both innocent and hot in your initial conversation.
* The art of flirting. Great Guys love women who can flirt. I'LL
SHOW YOU HOW TO BE CLASSY AND SEDUCTIVE AT THE SAME TIME.
* What words to use? I'll share with you precisely what to say.
* Body language. Can you really attract great guys without saying a
word? You bet you can! Here are the methods that women have used over
the ages to get us guys to pay attention.
* What really attracts us? PHYSICAL BEAUTY ISN'T AT THE TOP OF THE
LIST, BUT THIS IS.
* If you tend to be somewhat shy, or get nervous when you see a guy
you're attracted to, you'll find these techniques to be both natural
and easy to use.
* What Great Guys say are the most effective ways to get our
attention (and keep it).
* How to instantaneously tap into a man's subconscious mind and
appeal to his greatest desire. (And that's not what you think.)
NATURALLY, _MEETING GREAT GUYS_ IS JUST THE FIRST STEP. I'M ALSO
GOING TO SHARE WITH YOU
* How to make a guy want to see you again. This is how you get him
to think of you positively when you're apart.
* What guys mean when we say, _"I'm just not ready for a serious
relationship."_ or _"It's not you, it's me."_
* How to keep the attraction building.
* The dumb things that guys do that you need to overlook and
forgive. What to call us on, and what to let slide by.
* How to get out of "dating casually" and into a committed
relationship as quickly as possible.
* Why you make bad decisions about guys and keep dating total
jerks. (Many of us great guys just shake our heads in wonderment when
we see you make the same mistake over and over again.)
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By this I mean if you are not completely satisfied within 60 days
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to me. So even if you like some parts of the program but not others, I
want you to KEEP the entire program as my gift to you.
I'm talking all the risk here. Ideally I'd love some feedback on why
you decided to ask for a refund, but that's not required.
Just send an email to me
Mark@GentleRainRelationships.com
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"I was beginning to think that there was something wrong with me
after my divorce. I'd gotten myself into that mindset of maybe I don't
deserve a great guy. As I now know, it's pretty impossible to attract
a quality man if you think that way. Which is why I really value
Mark's advice. Not only does he share the techniques that make this
fun and doable, but he also really boosted my self-confidence in the
way he presented the material. Now I really believe I'm a great catch
and
I'm attracting the quality of guy I deserve!"
STACEY L.
_"The moment I saw a great guy I would get real nervous and never
know what to say or do. The techniques that Mark shares are ones that
I can actually use, not something that would work only in some movie.
They enable me to send out the right signals without feeling cheap or
not true to myself. I'm meeting some really great guys and having more
fun than I ever thought I would again. Thanks."_
Carol B.
_"After my divorce I had some real self-esteem issues. I actually
thought that I was attracting jerks because that was all I deserved.
Mark taught me that I am worthy of a great guy but that only jerks try
to pick you up without a green light. Since I didn't know how to send
out the right signals I was hopeless. That's all changed now :)"_
TONI M.
_"I never really thought about it, how the great guys desperately
don't want us to compare them to the 'pick up artists'. It's not that
they're shy or lack confidence, but if we don't give them the right
signals they just won't take that first step. I'm pretty shy myself so
this was something that I really didn't think I'd be comfortable
doing. But Mark showed me how to send the right messages in a way
that's comfortable, fun and safe. Thanks so much!"_
MARSHA S.
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