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SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE TO YOUR ALCOHOLIC SPOUSE!!
I WILL TEACH YOU HOW TO GET YOUR ALCOHOLIC SPOUSE ON YOUR SIDE.
LIVING WITH AN ALCOHOLIC SPOUSE IS SO FRUSTRATING. IT MAKES YOU ANGRY
AND KEEPS YOU FROM LIVING A HAPPY AND FULFILLING LIFE.
Have You Had Countless Nights Laying In Bed Wondering Where Your
Spouse Is? Do These Questions Race Through Your Mind: ” Has He/she
Been In A Car Wreck? Has He/she Been Arrested For Drunk Driving? Is
He/she Cheating On Me?” Then The Guilt Builds Up That Your Children
Are Victims Of Your Spouse’s Drinking Problem And That You Are Also
A Victim And Aren’t Doing Anything About It.
Despite These Worries, You Dread Hearing His/her Footsteps As He/she
Stumbles Into The Bedroom. Then There’s The Dreaded Smell. He/she
Passes Out Besides You Wreaking Of Alcohol. You Feel Repulsed. You
Feel Resentment. You Feel Trapped In Your Life. You Don’t Know What
To Do. Part Of You Wants To Leave, But You Still Love/him Her And
Worry About Your Future And Your Children’s Future. Feelings Of
Worthlessness And Hopelessness Bubble Up In You Again.
LET'S FIX THIS RIGHT NOW!
ASK YOURSELF:
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Are You Tired Of Exposing Your Children To Unpredictable Behavior,
Bad Moods, And A Tense Environment?
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Are You Tired Of Always Feeling Like The "bad" Person In The
Relationship?
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Has Your Spouse's Problem With Alcohol Become Your Problem?
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Are You Obsessed With Every Detail Of Your Spouse's Behavior?
You Don't Want To Stay In The Relationship, But You Don't Want To
Stay In A Miserable Relationship Either.
FIX IT NOW OR ELSE!
Why Haven't You Found A Solution To This Pressing Problem That Is
Dominating Every Aspect Of Your Life? First Of All, Most Books On
Alcoholism Focus On The Alcoholic Rather Than The Family. There Are
Countless Books On The Damaging Effects Of Alcohol And On Quitting
Drinking. Secondly, The Core Problem Is That Your Spouse Has No
Interest In Reading These Books Because He/she Doesn't Think He/she
Has A Problem With Drinking Too Much Alcohol. To Make Matters Worse,
He/she Says That You Are The Problem! He/she Tells You That Your
Nagging And Negativity Have Caused His/her Drinking. What's Scary Is
That Part Of You Believes This!
Maybe You Have Tried Every Argument You Can Think Of With Your Spouse
To No Avail. Maybe You Are Too Embarrassed To Confide In Your Family
And Friends Because They Would Be Appalled At What You Have Had To Put
Up With. Maybe Your Biggest Fear Is The People Closest To You Will
Think Less Of You (the Way You Think Of Yourself). You Even Wonder Why
You Are Putting Up With His/her Drinking. On The Surface It Seems That
You Are Ignoring The Problem, But The Truth Is You Are Desperate For A
Solution.
HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS. THIS SYSTEM WILL HELP YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE GET
BACK ON TRACK!
LET'S FACE IT!
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You Nag And Plead
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You Make You Spouse Promise To Stop Drinking
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You Act Cold And Distant
YOU CAN STOP THIS NEGATIVITY AND GET ON WITH TURNING THE CORNER RIGHT
NOW!
EACH DAY YOU DELAY, YOUR SITUATION GETS WORSE AND WORSE AND YOU LOSE
MORE OF YOURSELF.
WITH THIS 10 PART, SCIENTIFICALLY BASED SYSTEM YOU CAN START TODAY
AND SEE IMMENSE IMPROVEMENT IN YOUR LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP.
THIS MARRIAGE TOOLKIT WILL:
* EDUCATE YOU IN CLEAR AND SIMPLE TERMS, ABOUT THE DIAGNOSIS,
CAUSES, AND CONSEQUENCES OF ALCOHOLISM SO THAT YOU WILL KNOW WHAT YOU
ARE UP AGAINST.
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HELP YOU SEE THE MARRIAGE FROM A FRESH PERSPECTIVE TO HELP PROPEL YOU
OUT OF YOUR RUT.
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HELP YOU FACE YOUR FEARS THAT HAVE KEPT YOU IN THIS CHAOS.
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HELP YOU UNDERSTAND THE PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPACT THAT YOUR SPOUSE'S
DRINKING HAS HAD ON YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN.
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IDENTIFY THE STRATEGIES THAT YOU ARE CURRENTLY USING TO GET YOUR
SPOUSE TO STOP DRINKING WHICH HAVE BEEN INEFFECTIVE AND DAMAGING TO
THE RELATIONSHIP.
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GIVE YOU EASY TO UNDERSTAND STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN PROVEN OVER AND
OVER IN MY PSYCHIATRIC PRACTICE TO GIVE YOU THE BEST CHANCE OF TURNING
YOUR LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP AROUND.
STOP YOUR POWERLESSNESS NOW!
Mary is a housewife who has been married to an alcoholic for 20
years and has two children (10 and 12) at home. Over the course of
her marriage, her husband, Frank, started drinking more and more. Mary
was extremely unhappy with her marriage. Frank came home late every
night and sometimes didn't return home until 3 or 4AM.
Over time, Mary became "Supermom". All responsibilities fell on
her. In addition to taking care of her children's needs, she was
getting her husband up every morning, lying to his boss when he was
too hungover to show up at work, and helping him with his paperwork
when he got behind. It was as though she was raising 3 children.
After going through Dr. Uhr's 10 step system, Mary had an excellent
grasp of what needed to change. She started going to Al-Anon, a
support group for family members of alcoholics. She made several good
friends there as well as learning to set better boundaries with her
husband. She quit "cleaning up" his messes for him. She no longer lied
for him to his employer or made excuses to her children or friends
about him.
She no longer focused on his behavior, but started taking classes
and working part-time. She took her children to Church and gave up
feeling self conscious that he wasn't there. She found that she loved
her time with her girlfriends. For the first time in years, her life
was about her too, not just about Frank. She felt happier and more
confident.
Simultaneously, Frank suffered some of the consequences of his
drinking problem. His employer told him he would be fired if he didn't
get help. When he was faced with the reality of potentially losing his
job and his family (he could see his wife was capable of being
independent), he decided to get help. He has been clean and sober for
the last year. Frank and Mary are getting along better and he has
become a "father" to his children again.
MAKE HEADWAY IN 30 DAYS WITH THESE 10 PROVEN STEPS!
YOU ARE WONDERING, WHY SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO ME?
READ ON TO FIND OUT WHY
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I Am A Well Trained Psychiatrist And Have Treated Hundreds Of People
With A Variety Of Mental Health Problems Over The Last Twenty Years.
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I AM AN EXPERT IN MY FIELD. I HAVE HELPED NUMEROUS PEOPLE OVERCOME
ALCOHOLISM AND OTHER ADDICTIONS.
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I HAVE HELPED THEM IMPROVE THEIR RELATIONSHIPS.
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I HAVE TREATED MANY COUPLES IN YOUR POSITION.
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I HAVE SEEN HOW DIFFERENT MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS (ADDICTION,
DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER, NARCISSISM) AFFECT A
MARRIAGE.
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MY TRAINING AND EXPERTISE HAVE GIVEN ME A DEEP UNDERSTANDING AND
PROVEN ABILITY TO HELP SPOUSES OF ALCOHOLICS IMPROVE THEIR LIVES AND
HAVE BETTER, STRONGER MARRIAGES.
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MY ROADMAP INCLUDES THE MOST EFFECTIVE AND CLEAR STEPS FOR COMPLETELY
TURNING AROUND THE DESPERATE, SEEMINGLY HOPELESS RELATIONSHIP OF
LIVING WITH AN ALCOHOLIC.
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I HAVE SEEN HOW ALCOHOLISM CAN DESTROY A FAMILY.
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I HAVE SEEN OVER MY YEARS OF PRACTICE WHAT TECHNIQUES WORK TO IMPROVE
A MARRIAGE TO AN ALCOHOLIC AND WHAT TECHNIQUES ARE INEFFECTIVE.
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I UNDERSTAND THE UNIQUE PROBLEMS THAT ADDICTION BRINGS TO A FAMILY
AND HAVE BEEN ABLE TO HELP MY CLIENTS OVERCOME THEM.
DO YOU FEEL LIKE THE GREEK MYTHOLOGICAL CHARACTER, ATLAS, HOLDING UP
THE WHOLE WORLD ON HIS SHOULDERS?
DO YOU NEED A REST FROM THIS BURDEN?
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WHAT IF YOUR SPOUSE'S DRINKING WASN'T THE FOCUS OF YOUR DAY?
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WHAT IF YOU NO LONGER FELT LIKE IT WAS YOUR FAULT THAT YOUR SPOUSE
HAS A DRINKING PROBLEM?
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WHAT IF YOU COULD GAIN YOUR SELF RESPECT BACK?
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WHAT IF I COULD GIVE YOU SPECIAL INSIGHT INTO WHAT YOUR SPOUSE REALLY
NEEDS FROM YOU?
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WHAT IF YOU COULD HAVE A GOOD FEELING ABOUT THE FUTURE?
THIS SYSTEM WILL HELP YOU MOVE FORWARD!
THE 10 PART SYSTEM WILL GIVE YOU NEW EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUES FOR
RESCUING YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
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YOU WILL GET HELPFUL STRATEGIES FOR IMPROVING YOUR MARRIAGE THAT I
HAVE SEEN WORK OVER AND OVER IN THE COUPLES I TREAT IN MY PSYCHIATRIC
PRACTICE.
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THE INFORMATION WILL HELP YOU UNDERSTAND HOW TO STAY IN THE MARRIAGE
AND IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
WHAT ARE YOUR REASONS FOR STAYING IN THE MARRIAGE?
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MAYBE YOU DO NOT WANT TO GIVE UP THE HOUSE, THE CAR, THE GOOD SCHOOLS
YOUR CHILDREN ATTEND.
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MAYBE YOU STILL LOVE HIM OR HER.
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MAYBE YOU ARE AFRAID THIS MARRIAGE IS THE BEST YOU CAN DO AND YOU ARE
TERRIFIED OF BEING ALONE.
THERE IS NO NEED TO SUFFER ONE MORE DAY!
ASK YOURSELF: WILL YOUR MARRIAGE IMPROVE ON IT'S OWN?
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ARE YOU WILLING TO CONTINUE TO IGNORE A SITUATION THAT IS MAKING YOUR
MISERABLE?
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ARE YOU WILLING TO KEEP YOUR CHILDREN IN A SITUATION THAT MIGHT
COMPROMISE THEIR SAFETY?
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ARE YOU WILLING TO SACRIFICE BOTH YOUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH?
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ARE YOU WILLING TO STAY IN A SITUATION THAT HAS LIFE LONG NEGATIVE
EFFECTS ON YOUR CHILDREN'S MENTAL HEALTH?
HERE'S WHY THIS SYSTEM IS DIFFERENT FROM WHAT IS ALREADY OUT THERE
THIS SYSTEM GUIDES YOU THROUGH STEP BY STEP WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO
SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.
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MOST BOOKS ON ALCOHOL FOCUS ON THE ALCOHOLIC THEMSELVES, THE RECOVERY
PROCESS, OR ADVICE FOR THE SPOUSE TO LEAVE THE MARRIAGE.
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VERY FEW BOOKS FOCUS ON WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE
TO AN ALCOHOLIC.
READ DR. SARITA UHR'S BOOK NOW!
WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT THIS SYSTEM:
"AS THE OWNER OF SOLUTIONS OUTPATIENT SERVICES, AN INTENSIVE
OUTPATIENT PROGRAM IN DALLAS, I WANT TO THANK YOU.
"Sarita, you have given me such a practical, useful, and effective
system for helping my client's through this challenging time in their
lives; having to deal with an alcoholic spouse or partner. Your steps
for helping identify the stages of alcoholism are incredible. Your
description and explanation of what an intervention is will be a
wonderful guide for me to use with families that I am preparing for an
intervention. Thank you for your contribution to helping those who are
affected and afflicted by this disease.
LOIS JORDAN- OWNER SOLUTIONS OUTPATIENT SERVICES, DALLAS, TEXAS
"THE MOST CONCISE SUMMARY OF ADDICTION AND THE COMPLEX AND ILL
FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS THAT I HAVE EVER READ."
" If you follow the clear steps outlined in this system, the
actions will lead to true recovery for the addict, reconciliation of a
broken marriage, and emotional wellness for the spouse.
DR. JAMES BOONE - LA HACIENDA TREATMENT CENTER, HUNT , TEXAS
"DR. UHR HAS COMPILED A SIMPLE, STRAIGHT FORWARD, NO NONSENSE
APPROACH TO HELPING THE ALCOHOLIC QUIT DRINKING, AND JUST AS
IMPORTANTLY, SOLUTIONS FOR THE LOVED ONES OF THE ALCOHOLIC TO ALTER
CERTAIN BEHAVIORS AND ATTITUDES TO ALLOW THEM TO FEEL MUCH, MUCH
BETTER IN A RELATIVELY SHORT PERIOD OF TIME.
"Concise, to the point, and practical. It's a huge advantage that
you can learn her system in the privacy of your own home. If you love
someone with a drinking problem, read this immediately!.
KEN OSEAN, MED, LCDC, DALLAS, TEXAS
