Infidelity & Sign of an affair. Cheating husbands, extramarital
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7 VERY COMMON MISTAKES THAT PROLONG THE AFFAIR AND MISERY
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Dealing with a cheating spouse or cheating boyfriend can be one of
the most painful and devastating experiences a relationship can face.
I cannot recommend this book enough.
It not only outlines specifically the 7 types of affairs (and how to
handle each - whether you choose to stay or go), but you will find
it's material empowering. This book will help you to fully understand
that YOU are not defective.
There is nothing wrong with YOU!
It also begins with the big question: "Do you really want to be in a
relationship with this person?"
Anyone faced with infidelity, or anyone who wants to avoid
infidelity should have a copy of this book. I cannot recommend it
enough. Tracey at pig-dogs.net [1]
Dear Dr. Huizenga,
I just bought your book yesterday and all I can say is thank you. I
was on a emotional roller coaster when I found out that my wife was
having an affair(#4). Everything you said about the typical reactions
for the
offended were dead on. Everything you mentioned, I was going
through( I was
miserable). You helped me more than anyone or any resource ever did.
It was uncanny how accurate everything was. Dr. Huizenga, you saved me
from so much pain and angish, now I have the power, the knowledge and
the confidence to go on with my life. Thank you for everything. Kelly
PS I would have paid ten times more for the book if I knew how truly
powerful it was.
Your E-book finally gave me some peace of mind and a roadmap to
follow. It was amazing how the type of affair my wife was having just
jumped out at me. Knowing that, and what to expect, has given me hope
that there will be a resolution.
Thanks, Bob ....Joe
This is the one year anniversary of my life turning upside down due
to an affair. You helped me to move beyond the hurt and to focus more
clearly as I made some very hard decisions regarding my wife's
infidelity. The guidance you provided was invaluable, both for
understanding the affair and myself. Thank you...Tim R
...your E-book is a tremendous help. I reread it anytime I start
feeling that things are getting out of control. It helps put things in
perspective. Thanks for the help. Sharon
Your e-book hit my situation dead on the head!!! I felt like I was
getting a reading from a psychic!!! I have chills right now. Lauren
A friend of mine suggested I buy your e-book on affairs which I read
with great interest! My husband had 2 affairs during our marriage and
we are now going through a divorce. I couldn't believe how accurate
your description was of him - he is definitely number 3 but I don't
feel he has always been which is the sad thing really. Amber
I am amazed at how on-target you are in your profiles of the
different types of "cheaters". I wish I had this two years ago--would
have saved me a lot of trial-and-error. Pamela
Your ebook has already been a big help!No matter how this turns out
I'm already alot better off (feeling wise) than he appears to be.
Seems like your recommendations are right on target - he can't figure
out exactly what is going on other than I'm doing very well these days
and still being a very caring loving wife. Thanks for all your help!
Lisa
You have opened a well-spring of ideas for me. Thanks! Kelly
...the information I received from you in the e-book was some of the
most helpful I have seen, and I have read almost every "infidelity"
and "relationship" book ever published. Yvonne
I've read the book---some parts over and over---and indeed it's
worth it. Thank you very much. Viki
I find your writings an incredible source of comfort. I find power
in knowledge and you have helped me regain myself in all this mess.
THANK YOU!
Bill
I learned why I am having the affair. Why I feel like I do and that
there is hope for me to break the Revenge cycle that Ihave been on
since Ilearned of my husbands affair 20 years ago. I never let go and
have had several one night stands and 3 affairs. (One I am still in
and want to break free of but cant seem to stop). I finally recognize
all the pain I have felt and all the pain I am causing and what to do
to stop it.
Your approach is really different and unique. You have carved out
quite a niche for yourself! Michelle
I really liked the phrase "I will make it." I have been really down
and it has some how reinspired me. I also liked the 12 mistakes people
make. I knew I wanted to stay in the relationship (for a variety of
reasons) but I was having a hard time moving forward. Those 12 things
really made me look in the mirror. We have taken a lot of very
positive steps. Jeanette
At this time I find your writings an incredible source of comfort. I
find power in knowledge and you have helped me regain myself in all
this mess. THANK YOU.
Out of all the books and websites and counseling I've gone through,
your site has been of the most help to me and I am trying to find a
way that I can get full benefit. Thank you.
the information I received from you in that short time was some of
the most helpful I have seen, and I have read almost every
"infidelity" and "relationship" book ever published.
you are the best to have shared all you did...you helped me a great
deal. Ciao
Your book contains more valuable and relevant and USEFUL information
than all of the books combined I have read over the last two-plus
years. Your book is so overwhelmingly superior to the many, many books
I have devoured over the last three years, including the ones
considered to be the "best" on infidelity/affairs/relationships, and
the information you provide is so profoundly on-target and concisely
written in a straightforward manner that it is having a dramatic
impact on my life and marriage and on my beliefs/views/strategies as
formed by and based on the other booksI want to thank you for helping
me. So often, those of us with limited resources (money) are the ones
who lose the most, because we can't afford the very help we need. You
have provided me with something I've needed for a long time. I am so
grateful.
Your information was HUGELY helpful in helping me to categorize (to
a tee!) this "behavior" and of course look to move beyond it...
I have been using the Charging Neutral technique even without
knowing about it until today. This is not normal for me since I am
unemotional from day-to-day, but get emotional when we fight and
eventually explode (like the description in Affair #5). Being very,
very calm with her at first really scared her (I have never hit/hurt
her), but she has opened up tremendously the more I can show that I
won't explode.
As usual your information is right on the mark. Its uncanny how your
stuff seems to reach me just when I am looking for the information.
It's marvelous to read. It makes me feel normal again. Regards Yvette
Dr. Huizenga, your book has provided me with greater insight, with
more understanding, with reassurance of my own value. But it has also
presented me with a scary problem: My husband's affair was a very
complicated matter, it is not going to be an easy or short road to
recovery, and it will not be easy determining which tactics to use and
when as I deal with building a new, and hopefully better thanks to
you, relationship with my husband. Initially my heart and hopes sank
as I discovered just how difficult this "recovery" will be, but it is
encouraging to find that my intuitive responses in dealing with my
husband and his affair have more often than not been correct. You have
also given me many new ideas of ways to "shake up" the way we
communicate and relate with each other, something we have needed badly
for many years. I have a difficult road ahead, I have to accept that,
but you have helped me understand that new territory better than I
could have without this book. I can never thank you enough or repay
your generosity. Sally
Dr. Huizenga: I knew my husband was involved with another woman. His
affair lasted two years and has been ended for almost ten months. You
have produced the most helpful, useful and relevant book on dealing
with your partner's affair that I have ever seen. You include vital
information that no other source contains. Your profiles are so
accurate it is eery! For me the most valuable part of each chapter is
the very specific advice on what YOU can do to increase your chances
that your marriage will survive the affair. I felt many times as I
read your book that you somehow had been in my head and heart and
living my life, your descriptions and profiles are that accurate!
Yvonne
I just finished reading your e-book How to break free of the affair.
I must state this was the best book on relationships I have read thus
far. my compliments on your wonderful book. Thank you NR
My wife and I have been fighting about 8 months now & she finally
moved out about 3 weeks ago I wish I would have gotten you e book
sooner. Joe
Can't believe reading your ebook that the situations are just like
what I'm experiencing. My husband left the house three months ago.
Four days before our 25TH Anniversary We celebrated it with a night in
NYC Nothing spared. I know he's having an affair & won't admit it.
Lately, he's been a great deal better with his attitude. I think the
affair has somewhat come to an end. He still needs two weeks to come
home. Why??? I made an appointment with a mediator. He flipped today
with that. Mary
I wanted to Thank you earlier but have been busy with the baby. She
is 3 1/2 months old and cutting her first teeth. Finding you has been
a God send for me. I hope God blesses you. Thank you for this material
and I will read every bit of it and use it in my everyday living. Pam
...very tightly and concisely written, in understandable language
and clear suggestions. Thanks! Nancy
...you pose pertinent and sometimes uncomfortable questions I must
ask myself to determine my own motives for wanting to save my
marriage. But for me the most valuable part of each chapter is your
very specific advice on what I can do to increase my chances that our
marriage will survive the affair. Yvonne
Thanks again for your site because it helps put me back on the path
of reality and truth and gives me comfort and hope. May God bless.
Carol
As one of your members, I just wanted to say thank you for your web
site and for all you do to help others get through such a difficult
time in their lives. Several months ago I became a member of your
"club" and got your e-book "Break Free From The Affair."
I am impressed with your book, and it's been helpful. Bob
Dear Dr. Huizenga, First and foremost I want to say that you have
already helped me tremendously just by reading some of your articles
and information on your website and your emails. Of all the websites
and books I have read, yours is superior in regard to this subject. I
sincerely appreciate all your work to help people like me that are in
the situations that we are. John
I downloaded your e-book and it helped me cope with what was
happening in my life. I must have read it 25 times!!! Thank You, Kathi
Already, I have started putting into practice the suggestions from
your materials and usually feeling empowered. linda
First, I have bought your ebook and have found it fantastic. I'm
still trying to identify which type of affair scenario fits my
husband. I am after only 6 weeks in surprisingly good "emotional"
shape, which in part is due to your book. Karen
Dear Bob,I recently purchased your E-book "Break Free From Your
Affair" on November 10, 2003. I really depend on this book right now.
However, it is gone from my computer. I don't know what happened to
it. Please help. I need to refer back to it. Robin
The best Christmas present I will get. I will get over all this and
figure out what to do going forward. My faith in male/female
relationships has been severely damaged but I will work on that. Sue
Just a note to wish you a very happy holiday season. I want to thank
youfor all your help this past year. Your counsel and articles have
helped mea more than you will ever know. Whenever I start to get down,
I reread year book, especially the part on affair #4. Joe
One of the best parts of the book has been examining my motivations
and helping me decide to save the marriage or not. I have found out
much about myself and identified my fear of living alone. I still
struggle with the "I will make it" self message and have some sadness
over the loss of the relationship with my wife. Overall I am very glad
that I found your website and appreciate the online discussion forum
greatly. Marty
Your book was very good, in fact one of the best I have read. Linda
I look forward to hearing from you and for your ongoing advice, you
are an extremely important find for me. There is very little pragmatic
literature or advice out there .Sandy
Thanks Bob for your encouraging words. I'm taking your advise and
feel confident and at peace that I am on the path to reclaiming my
integrity. I'm planning on a wonderful New Year! Joan
Here are the things I have found good about your site/work so far.
1) It is written with a 360o degree viewpoint - that is to say when
you get into it you have thought about all the angles and the
implications of the problems an affair brings when disclosed.
2) Linked to this, I bought the E-Book on Sunday and read it in one
sitting - I have never thought about affairs (I was too scared too,
like most people) and found it absolutely fascinating to think and
consider what the propellers (motivates) are and how they may be very
different. I thought that the analysis of what type of affair your
partner has had was good to think about and it gave me ideas for why
my partner has had trouble with other relationships (apparently this
is the first time with me in 2.5 years!). But his father also had 2
(that he knows of extramarital affairs) affairs and I think this is
'in his genes' if there is such a thing!? It turns out his father left
his first wife when he returned from the navy to find out she had been
unfaithful and he walked out immediately on her & 3 smallish kids,
left Canada and joined the navy again to sail as far away as possible
traveling around the world and finally settling in London where he met
my partners mother.
3) It is well written and thought provoking. It's the cost of a
therapy session (
